abba-care-prc

Some Pregnancies are Unexpected…and Some are Unexpectedly Difficult.

Mon, 09 Mar 2026 14:00:05 GMT

Some Pregnancies are Unexpected…and Some are Unexpectedly Difficult.

The words you never want to hear during your baby’s ultrasound: “It looks like there may be something wrong…”

Receiving an adverse fetal diagnosis can be an overwhelming and challenging experience. At AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center in Winchester, Virginia , we are here to provide families with the information, support, and compassion they need when facing an unexpected or unexpectedly difficult pregnancy.

The Ezrah program is designed to come alongside families that have received a particularly difficult prenatal diagnosis. These diagnoses could include anything from a cleft lip/palate, to Down Syndrome (trisomy 21), to a diagnosis not compatible with life.

_____________________________________________________________________________________

EMILY’S STORY

Emily* reached out to our Medical Director Liaison, Sarah, after she had an ultrasound for her pregnancy around 27 weeks gestation. Her doctor had found a very concerning brain abnormality on her ultrasound that day and she was left with lots of questions. She was able to see a specialist the very next day who confirmed the diagnosis of anencephaly. Anencephaly is the absence of a major portion of the brain, skull, and scalp that occurs during fetal development. With very few exceptions, infants with this disorder do not survive longer than a few hours or days after birth. Emily and her husband were devastated by this diagnosis.

A couple of weeks after the initial diagnosis, Emily came into AbbaCare to meet with Sarah and to learn more about the Ezrah program. Sarah gave her information and local resources and answered some of the questions that she had. But most importantly, Emily received a free ultrasound to see her beautiful baby boy. She was so appreciative of the opportunity to see her baby with no pressure, no added stress, no doctor giving her bad news. It was just her sweet baby boy moving around, showing us his fingers and toes. Her other sons were able to be there and to see their baby brother moving inside their mom. It was a precious moment.

Soon after that initial appointment with AbbaCare, Emily was set up with one of our Ezrah mentor families. This sweet family had also lost a son during pregnancy. To be able to have someone to talk to who has been through the grief of losing a child before is invaluable. 

A little over a month after her initial diagnosis, Emily developed symptoms and was advised by her OB/GYN to go straight to the hospital. That evening her precious baby boy was born. He lived for just a few minutes before he passed away peacefully in the arms of his mother.

The next few days for this beautiful family were a whirlwind. AbbaCare was able to provide support to Emily and her family during a time of unimaginable loss.

*Name changed to maintain client confidentiality

We know from testimonies that clients are being heavily encouraged to terminate their pregnancies when faced with an abnormal diagnosis. Some have been threatened with refusal of care by OB/GYN practices if they choose not to undergo further testing to confirm possible abnormal diagnoses. 

Here at AbbaCare, we do not agree that terminating a pregnancy is a better outcome than letting these children live for the length of time God ordained their lives to be. We fully believe that women and families would have better outcomes physically and emotionally if the church community and the medical community came alongside them to support, encourage, and love them as best as we can. That is why AbbaCare created the Ezrah program .

EZRAH Program

At AbbaCare, we provide holistic spiritual and emotional care for families who have received a challenging fetal diagnosis. Our support includes information and resources to help you understand your child’s diagnosis, as well as referrals to community providers and specialists. Additionally, we connect you with families who have walked a similar journey, offering support through this difficult time.

Learn more about the Ezrah program HERE .

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center providing  free and confidential services  in Winchester, Virginia , and Martinsburg, West Virginia .

Winchester, VA  (540) 665-9660
Martinsburg, WV  (304) 726-6582

SOURCES

1 . Social and emotional support applied to general health:

Reblin M, Uchino BN. Social and emotional support and its implication for health. Curr Opin Psychiatry. 2008 Mar;21(2):201-5. doi: 10.1097/YCO.0b013e3282f3ad89. PMID: 18332671; PMCID: PMC2729718.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/resources/citations/2729718/export/

2. Social and emotional support during pregnancy:

Traylor CS, Johnson JD, Kimmel MC, Manuck TA. Effects of psychological stress on adverse pregnancy outcomes and nonpharmacologic approaches for reduction: an expert review. Am J Obstet Gynecol MFM. 2020 Nov;2(4):100229. doi: 10.1016/j.ajogmf.2020.100229. Epub 2020 Sep 24. PMID: 32995736; PMCID: PMC7513755.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/resources/citations/7513755/export/

3. ACOG:

Effects of psychological stress on adverse pregnancy outcomes and nonpharmacologic approaches for reduction: an expert review Traylor, Claire S. et al. American Journal of Obstetrics & Gynecology MFM, Volume 2, Issue 4, 10022

https://www.ajogmfm.org/article/S2589-9333%2820%2930197-X/fulltext

I’m Pregnant, Who Should I Tell? Navigating Hard Conversations With Your Partner, Family, or Friends

Mon, 09 Feb 2026 15:00:05 GMT

I’m Pregnant, Who Should I Tell? Navigating Hard Conversations With Your Partner, Family, or Friends

Finding out you’re pregnant—especially when it’s unexpected—can feel overwhelming. Along with the emotions, questions, and decisions, one big concern often rises to the surface: Who should I tell?

Telling your partner, family, or friends can feel intimidating, especially if you’re unsure how they’ll react. Whether you’re afraid of disappointing someone, causing conflict, or feeling judged, you’re not alone. At AbbaCare in Winchester & Martinsburg, Virginia , we walk alongside women every day who are navigating these exact conversations.

Here are some gentle tips to help you approach these difficult but important discussions with confidence and care.

Telling Your Partner

If you have a partner, telling them is often one of the most emotional conversations. You may be nervous about their reaction—or unsure how they’ll feel.

Helpful tips:

Choose a calm, private space where you won’t feel rushed
Be honest about your feelings, even if you’re unsure or scared
Remember: this conversation doesn’t have to solve everything at once

It’s okay if emotions run high. Give each other space to process, and know that support is available if the conversation feels overwhelming.

Talking With Family

Family reactions can vary widely—some may be supportive, others may surprise you. You might feel pressure, fear disappointment, or worry about judgment.

Consider this before sharing:

Who in your family feels safest to talk to first?
What kind of support do you need right now—emotional, practical, or both?
It’s okay to share only what you’re comfortable with

You don’t owe anyone all the details immediately. Take it one step at a time.

Opening Up to Friends

Friends can be an incredible source of support—but only if you feel safe doing so. Trust your instincts when deciding who to tell.

Ask yourself:

Will this person listen without judgment?
Do they respect my boundaries?
Will they support me, even if they don’t fully understand?

It’s okay to wait until you feel ready. There’s no timeline for sharing your story.

When You’re Not Ready to Tell Anyone

If you’re not ready to talk to your partner, family, or friends yet—that’s okay. You deserve a safe, confidential place to process everything first.

That’s where AbbaCare in Winchester & Martinsburg, Virginia comes in.

You Don’t Have to Navigate This Alone

At AbbaCare in Winchester & Martinsburg, Virginia , we provide a judgment-free space to talk, ask questions, and explore your options . Our compassionate team is here to support you—no pressure, no cost, and complete confidentiality.

Whether you need help preparing for a hard conversation or just need someone to listen, we’re here for you.

Contact AbbaCare in Winchester & Martinsburg, Virginia today to schedule a free, confidential appointment . You are not alone—and support is closer than you think.

Is the Abortion Pill the Same as Plan B in Winchester, Virginia & Martinsburg, West Virginia?

Fri, 07 Nov 2025 17:31:00 GMT

Is the Abortion Pill the Same as Plan B in Winchester, Virginia & Martinsburg, West Virginia?

If you’re facing an unplanned pregnancy, you may have questions about your options and the medications you’ve heard about—like the abortion pill and Plan B. Many people confuse the two, but they are not the same thing . At AbbaCare, located in Winchester , Virginia & Martinsburg , West Virginia, we provide accurate information and compassionate support so you can make an informed decision for your health and future.

What Is Plan B?

Plan B, also known as the “morning-after pill,” is a form of emergency contraception . It is designed to be taken within 72 hours after unprotected sex to help reduce the chance of pregnancy.

Plan B works primarily by:

Delaying or preventing ovulation (the release of an egg).
Preventing fertilization, if ovulation has not yet occurred.

It’s important to note:

Plan B does not cause an abortion.
If you are already pregnant, Plan B will not end the pregnancy.

What Is the Abortion Pill?

The abortion pill, sometimes called a medication abortion , is very different from Plan B. It is a two-step medical process used to end an existing pregnancy up to 10 weeks along from last menstrual period.

The process involves two medications:

Mifepristone – blocks progesterone, the hormone needed for pregnancy to continue.
Misoprostol – causes the uterus to contract and expel the pregnancy.

Unlike Plan B, the abortion pill is not emergency contraception—it is used to terminate a pregnancy that has already implanted in the uterus.

Abortion Pill vs. Plan B: The Key Differences

Plan B (morning-after pill): Taken soon after sex to try to prevent pregnancy.
Abortion pill (medication abortion): Taken to end an existing pregnancy.
Plan B will not work if you are already pregnant, while the abortion pill is specifically intended to terminate a pregnancy.

Why Understanding the Difference Matters in Winchester, Virginia & Martinsburg, West Virginia.

If you are unsure whether you’re pregnant, knowing the difference between these medications can help you avoid unnecessary confusion and stress. At AbbaCare in Winchester , Virginia & Martinsburg , West Virginia, we provide:

Free pregnancy testing
Limited ultrasounds to confirm pregnancy and how far along you are
A safe, confidential place to explore your options

Find Support at AbbaCare in Winchester, Virginia & Martinsburg, West Virginia.

If you think you might be pregnant or have questions about the abortion pill or Plan B, reach out to AbbaCare today. Our caring team is here to provide clarity, resources, and confidential support—all at no cost to you.

Contact us to schedule your free appointment today.

Nausea in Pregnancy

Tue, 28 Oct 2025 14:20:47 GMT

Nausea in Pregnancy

Nausea and vomiting during early pregnancy may signal the rise in hormones needed for a healthy pregnancy. Research suggests that nausea and vomiting during pregnancy might be due to the effects of a hormone made by the placenta, human chorionic gonadotropin (HCG). Nausea and vomiting tend to be the worst during the first trimester of pregnancy and usually start to resolve between 12 and 15 weeks of pregnancy. However, nausea and vomiting can occur at any time in pregnancy. If taking your prenatal vitamins is making nausea worse, make sure you are taking them with food or at nighttime. Some non-medicinal relief measures include:

● Eat small, frequent meals and avoid foods with strong odors or tastes.

● Stop smoking

● Suck on hard candy (sour, sweet, cinnamon or peppermint)

● Eat dry crackers, popcorn, or toast.

● Avoid low blood sugar levels; eat high-protein foods.

● Reduce fat (including fried foods) and spices in your diet.

● Exercise

● Wear an acupressure wrist band (Sea-Bands)

● Eat foods containing ginger (Ginger soda, ginger candies)

● Drink herbal teas- Ginger root tea, chamomile tea (throughout the day, especially at bedtime), Peppermint tea

Check out this resource from the Mayo Clinic:

https://my.clevelandclinic.org/health/diseases/16566-morning-sickness-nausea-and-

vomiting-of-pregnancy

Sources: https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/pregnancy-week-by-week/expert-

answers/nausea-during-pregnancy/faq-20057917

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving Winchester Virginia, Martinsburg West Virginia, and the Northern Shenandoah Valley. All of our services are free and confidential. Call us today to schedule an appointment at 540.665.9660 (Winchester) or 304.726.6582 (Martinsburg) or by sending us a message.

I’m Pregnant and Scared—Where Can I Turn for Help?

Fri, 29 Aug 2025 15:43:15 GMT

I’m Pregnant and Scared—Where Can I Turn for Help?

Finding out you might be pregnant when you weren’t expecting it can feel overwhelming. Maybe you’re feeling scared, alone, or unsure of what to do next. These feelings are completely normal—but you don’t have to go through this by yourself. At AbbaCare in Winchester, Virginia, and Martinsburg, West Virginia , we’re here to walk with you every step of the way.

Take a Breath—You’re Not Alone

The first thing to know is that you are not the only one facing this situation. Many women face an unplanned pregnancy, and it’s okay to feel scared. Taking a deep breath and giving yourself space to process is an important first step.

Confirm Your Pregnancy with a Reliable Test

Before making any decisions, it’s important to confirm whether or not you are actually pregnant. At-home pregnancy tests are a starting point, but professional testing and ultrasound can give you accurate results and important details about your pregnancy.

At AbbaCare , we offer:

Free pregnancy testing
Free limited ultrasounds (to confirm how far along you are and if the pregnancy is viable)

These services are always confidential and provided in a safe, caring environment.

Talk to Someone You Trust

Keeping your fears bottled up can make the situation feel even heavier. Consider talking with a close friend, trusted family member, or mentor. Having support around you can bring comfort. And remember—you can also come to us. Our trained staff is here to listen without judgment.

You deserve a place where you can ask questions freely, talk through your fears, and explore your options without pressure.

Understand Your Options

When facing an unplanned pregnancy, you’ll want to take time to consider your choices. At AbbaCare , we’ll walk through each option with you, including:

Parenting – Learning what resources are available to help you raise your child
Adoption – Exploring different adoption plans and how they work
Abortion – Understanding procedures, risks, and Virginia/ West Virginia state laws

Knowledge is power. We’re here to make sure you have the information you need to make the best decision for your future.

Care for Your Emotional Health

Fear, anxiety, and uncertainty are natural when life takes an unexpected turn. Your emotional health matters, too. At AbbaCare , we provide a safe place to talk through your feelings, connect with resources, and find hope.

You Are Not Alone

Right now, fear may feel like it’s taking over. But remember—you are stronger than you think, and you don’t have to face this journey by yourself. At AbbaCare in Winchester, Virginia, and Martinsburg, West Virginia , caring people are ready to support you with compassion, truth, and hope.

Take the Next Step

If you think you might be pregnant and don’t know where to turn, AbbaCare is here for you . Call us today at (540) 665-9660 , or schedule your free and confidential appointment online. You don’t have to face this alone—we’re here to help.

Why an Early Ultrasound Matters—Especially Before Taking Abortion Pills

Mon, 14 Jul 2025 14:00:16 GMT

Why an Early Ultrasound Matters—Especially Before Taking Abortion Pills

Free Ultrasound Services in Winchester and Martinsburg, Virginia

When facing an unexpected pregnancy, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed. At AbbaCare, we understand - because many of us have been in your shoes. Whether you’re considering abortion or simply want to understand your options , getting a confirmation ultrasound is one of the most important first steps you can take.

We’re a licensed medical clinic with locations in Winchester , VA and Martinsburg , West Virginia, operating under the supervision of a licensed Medical Director. All of our medical services are provided by licensed professionals who care deeply about your health and well-being. We're here to support you with facts - not pressure - and everything we offer is completely free and confidential .

What Is an Ultrasound?

Ultrasound is a safe, non-invasive way to see what’s happening inside your body. There are two common methods:

Transabdominal ultrasound : A gel is applied to your abdomen, and a small handheld device (called a transducer) is moved across your skin to produce an image on a screen.
Transvaginal ultrasound : A small transducer is gently inserted into the vagina to get a clearer picture during early pregnancy.

At AbbaCare, we use ultrasound to gather key medical information that empowers you to make informed decisions about your pregnancy.

Why Should I Get an Ultrasound Before an Abortion?

Even if you’re planning to take the abortion pill, an ultrasound is often required by telehealth providers before prescribing the medication. Here’s why:

1. Know How Far Along You Are

Abortion methods differ based on how far along you are in your pregnancy. The abortion pill is FDA-approved only for use during the early weeks of pregnancy. An ultrasound can accurately measure the gestational age and help determine your eligibility for different options.

2. Confirm Intrauterine Pregnancy

Sometimes a pregnancy develops outside the uterus, usually in a fallopian tube. This is called an ectopic pregnancy , and it can be life-threatening if not treated promptly. Abortion pills will not treat this condition. An ultrasound confirms the location of your pregnancy to ensure your safety.

3. Confirm Viability

Did you know that up to 20% of pregnancies end in miscarriage ? An ultrasound can detect whether your pregnancy is progressing and check for a fetal heartbeat . If there’s no heartbeat or development, you may be having a miscarriage and could avoid a procedure that isn’t medically necessary.

Free and Confidential Ultrasounds in Virginia

At AbbaCare, we provide free ultrasounds in both our Winchester, VA and Martinsburg, West Virginia locations. Our caring, licensed professionals will walk with you through each step—providing information, compassion, and care without judgment. Whether you're exploring abortion, parenting, or adoption, we’re here to help you make an informed decision.

Schedule Your Free Appointment Today

If you think you might be pregnant, don’t wait. Schedule a free ultrasound today to confirm what’s going on in your body and learn more about your options . We're here for you - no pressure, just support.

Abortion Laws in West Virginia

Mon, 23 Jun 2025 14:00:02 GMT

Abortion Laws in West Virginia

Understanding Abortion Laws in West Virginia

Navigating reproductive health care can feel overwhelming, especially as laws and regulations vary widely from state to state. In West Virginia, a range of abortion-related policies are currently in effect. Whether you're seeking information for yourself or someone you care about, understanding the current legal landscape can support informed and confident decision-making. AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center in Winchester , VA & Martinsburg , West Virginia, provides information on abortion and free ultrasound services to confirm a viable pregnancy for individuals considering abortion .

Current Abortion Laws in West Virginia

Abortion is currently banned in West Virginia, with very limited exceptions, such as when the life of the pregnant individual is at risk or in cases of certain medical emergencies. The following regulations are currently in effect:

A 24-hour waiting period is required after counseling before an abortion can be obtained (the counseling does not need to be in person).

Medication abortion is permitted only after an in-person examination , and the first dose must be taken at the clinic.

The use of telehealth for abortion care is not allowed under West Virginia state law.

State Medicaid and most private insurance plans do not cover abortion care , except in specific cases such as life endangerment, rape, or incest.

Parental notice is required for minors seeking an abortion.

Only physicians can provide abortions and not other qualified health care professionals

Miscarriage Care Is Not the Same as Abortion Care

It’s important to note that miscarriage care is not restricted under West Virginia’s abortion laws. Miscarriage, or spontaneous pregnancy loss, is not the same as an abortion, and medical care for miscarriages remains fully legal and available.

Some misinformation has led women to believe they cannot seek medical treatment for a miscarriage in states with abortion restrictions. This is absolutely untrue and can be dangerous. Miscarriage is often a medical emergency, and hospitals in West Virginia are equipped and legally permitted to provide the necessary care. No one should hesitate to seek help in the event of pregnancy complications.

Parental Consent and Provider Guidelines

Minors seeking an abortion in West Virginia must have both parental consent and parental notice. However, if you are under 18 and unsure of your next steps, know that you can still receive free and confidential support from our clinic in Winchester, VA & Martinsburg, West Virginia .

We provide services such as pregnancy testing & ultrasounds to confirm. Parental consent is not required for our services. We are here to help you learn more about your options and support you without judgment.

Empowered Consent

Understanding your rights and responsibilities under state law is a crucial part of empowered consent. Whether someone chooses to carry a pregnancy to term, explore adoption , or seek an abortion , access to clear, accurate information is essential.

Our clinic offers free and confidential services before abortion in Winchester , VA & Martinsburg , West Virginia. If you're considering your options , we are here to support you with facts, not pressure. If you're not located near our clinic, we can also refer you to a free pregnancy clinic near you that can assist you as you navigate your next steps.

Schedule a Free Appointment

If you think you may be pregnant and want to understand your options , AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center in Winchester , VA & Martinsburg , West Virginia, is here to help.

Our compassionate team is here to support you with facts, not pressure - so you can make an informed decision that’s right for you.

Schedule your free appointment today and explore your options in a safe, nonjudgmental environment.

Embrace Grace: Providing Support and Community for Single and Pregnant Women

Mon, 14 Oct 2024 18:05:39 GMT

Women all over the nation are finding out they are pregnant and they feel completely alone. They look to abortion as the answer because of fear of the unknown. Fear can feel overwhelming and many women feel pressure to make a quick decision. They don’t know where to turn and they think their life and dreams are over.

AbbaCare seeks to walk alongside these women, offering accurate information, and loving support.

We would like to introduce, Embrace Grace with whom we are partnering. Embrace Grace exists to support women who want to carry their babies, by offering teachings that empower, and a community to encourage them.

If you are single and in an unplanned pregnancy and you want to make new friends, meet other unmarried moms in similar situations AND receive a free baby shower with brand new baby items, join an Embrace Grace 12 week group experience that will change your life, and help you to be the mom and woman you are meant to be!

Visit embracegrace.com to find local groups, start a group, or just to learn more. If you know anyone struggling in their pregnancy or parenting journey, get them connected today. Check out the groups in Martinsburg, Romney, and Winchester, or see if there is one in your area by clicking HERE .

Can I Continue My Pregnancy After Taking the Abortion Pill?

Tue, 24 Sep 2024 17:45:16 GMT

Making a major decision can be stressful. Sometimes, people think that just picking an option will provide clarity. But what if you change your mind? Is it possible to go back?

Not all decisions are final.

Medical abortion, also known as the abortion pill, seems like one of those final decisions that cannot be undone. However, if you took the first pill of the abortion pill and are having second thoughts, it’s still your choice , and we will stand by your decision. Depending on when you took the first pill, you may still have time to change your mind and get in contact with a doctor who specializes in Abortion Pill Reversal. Questions? We’re here to help!

If I took the first dose, can I still decide to continue my pregnancy?

Yes, if only the first dose of the abortion pill has been taken, it may be possible to stop the abortion and continue your pregnancy.

If you regret taking the abortion pill, contact the Abortion Pill Reversal hotline at 1-877-558-0333 immediately. If it’s during regular business hours, you can also contact us first so we can get you in as soon as possible.

We believe that it’s still a woman’s decision, and women deserve a second chance at their choice. No one should feel forced to continue an abortion they do not want.

How does the abortion pill reversal work?

The first pill of a chemical abortion, mifepristone, blocks the effects of progesterone, a hormone necessary for a pregnancy to thrive. The second pill causes contractions and expels the fetus.

The abortion pill reversal process involves a prescription for progesterone to counteract the mifepristone.

Women typically need to start the protocol within 24 hours of taking mifepristone for the abortion pill reversal to be successful. According to the Abortion Pill Rescue Network, there have also been successful reversals when treatment was started within 72 hours of taking the first abortion pill.

Is it safe to stop or reverse the abortion pill?

Yes. Progesterone has been used to safely support healthy pregnancies since the 1950s, and it received FDA approval in 1998.

Today, progesterone treatment is commonly used to reduce the risk of premature birth and miscarriages. In addition, progesterone supplementation is an expected part of managing IVF pregnancies after embryo transfer and has an extensive safety record. How much does it cost?

Costs can depend on the progesterone used. Insurance plans may cover treatment. However, if insurance does not cover it, we will ensure you get the treatment you need regardless of the cost.

What is the success rate of abortion pill reversal?

Initial studies of Abortion Pill Reversal have shown it has a 64-68% success rate. According to the Abortion Pill Rescue Network, “Without the APR treatment, the first abortion pill may fail to abort the pregnancy on its own. In other words, your pregnancy may continue even without APR if you decide not to take the second abortion drug likely prescribed or provided to you. APR has been shown to increase the chances of allowing the pregnancy to continue. However, the outcome of your particular reversal attempt cannot be guaranteed.”

Your Next Steps

If you are looking for options after taking the first dose of the abortion pill, contact us or the Abortion Pill Reversal Network to learn about what steps to take next. The bottom line is if you decide to continue your pregnancy, it’s still your choice. Contact us to learn more at abbacare.org .

Blog content used with permission from Stories Marketing (2024).

References:

● Charlotte Lozier Institute. (2023b, July 14). Abortion pill Reversal: A record of safety and efficacy – Lozier

Institute. Lozier Institute. https://lozierinstitute.org/abortion-pill-reversal-a-record-of-safety-and-efficacy/

● Abortion pill reversal. (n.d.). Home. https://abortionpillreversal.com/

● Starkman, E. (2022b, April 7). Medical abortion (Abortion pill): what to know. WebMD.

https://www.webmd.com/women/abortion-pill-medical-abortion-overview

Healthy relationships: What they are and what they are not.

Thu, 08 Aug 2024 00:12:41 GMT

Relationships can be amazing and fun or challenging and difficult. Both people in the relationship have value and worth and deserve to be treated well by their partner. It takes both people working together to have a healthy relationship.

A Healthy Relationship:

Respects the others opinions, beliefs and boundaries

Actively listens to the other person to gain understanding not just to form a response.

Is kind and treats the other person the way they want to be treated

Is honest and truthful in all situations- no “white” lies

Understands and is able to empathize when the other is going through a difficult time

Perseveres standing strong together in tough times

Protects

Trusts to do things independently as well as together

Gives, being able to compromise

An Unhealthy Relationship:

Jealous - does not trust
Possessive-demanding of your time
Selfish– not giving
Intimidating- willfully scares
Easily angered – not understanding
Demanding- wants what they want when they want it
Arrogant- thinks they are better than you
Stubborn- not willing to compromise
Forceful/Hurtful- does not respect you or your boundaries

While this is not an extensive list, it gives you a good idea of the differences of a healthy vs. unhealthy relationship.

Any relationship can go through a tough time. However, if you are in an unhealthy relationship that attacks your value and worth, there needs to be a change. If you are unmarried, you may need to put a hold on the relationship and seek counseling.

If your partner is unwilling to see a counselor, you may need to move on. If you are married, you definitely need to seek counseling. Working on a relationship is not easy.

Both partners need to be ready to work, make changes and grow into a more loving and solid relationship.

To take the Healthy Relationship Quiz click HERE . Or visit the link below:

Sources:

www.loveisrespect.org

Age and Pregnancy: Should Women Be Concerned?

Mon, 08 Apr 2024 00:00:13 GMT

From teen pregnancy to advanced maternal age, pregnancy at any age can come with risks. We are often told that pregnancy in our teen years or over the age of 35 comes with possible increased risk to Mom and baby. But, what are those risks? Should a woman be concerned if she is a pregnant teenager or a woman over the age of 35?

Teen pregnancy:

Many of the risks of teen pregnancy tend to be socioeconomic risks. These risks include:

Unplanned Pregnancy
Lack of or inadequate prenatal care
Lack of preparation for having a newborn
Difficulty completing high school or going to college
Being a single parent
Lack of support or resources

Many of these socioeconomic factors can be helped with good support from family or resources such as pregnancy resource centers. AbbaCare and other pregnancy resource centers can come alongside adolescent pregnant women and families to help ensure they are well-prepared and supported. Many pregnancy resource centers offer material support (diapers, wipes, formula, clothing, and other newborn supplies), parenting classes, childbirth classes, counseling, support groups, and mentor moms.

There are some increased medical risks associated with adolescent pregnancy. These include an increased risk of pregnancy-induced high blood pressure, premature labor, low birth weight, and an increased risk of post-partum depression. These medical risks tend to decrease with adequate prenatal care and support throughout the pregnancy.

Teens who are pregnant should immediately stop all drug, alcohol, and tobacco use. They should also get into prenatal care as soon as possible.

Pregnancy over the age of 35 :

Many women are told that if they are pregnant over the age of 35 they are considered high risk due to their age. Increased age can come with more risks but it is not guaranteed that any of those risks could happen. Here are some of the increased medical risks associated with pregnancy over the age of 35:

Increased risk of twins or multiple gestation
Increased risk of gestational diabetes
Increased risk of developing high blood pressure during pregnancy
Increased risk of premature birth or having a baby with a low birth weight
Increased risk of C-Section
Increased risk of chromosomal conditions such as Trisomy 21 (Down Syndrome), Trisomy 18, or Trisomy 13.
Increased risk of miscarriage or pregnancy loss.

What can women over the age of 35 do to decrease these risks?

They can:

Make a preconception appointment with an OB/GYN or get into prenatal care as soon as they find out about their pregnancy.
Seek regular prenatal care
Eat a healthy diet
Gain weight wisely
Get regular exercise
Immediately stop any alcohol, drug or tobacco use.

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving women and families facing pregnancies that are unexpected or unexpectedly difficult. To learn more about our free, confidential services, visit abbacare.org .

Sources:

Mayo Clinic

Nationwide Children’s

Web MD

Sexual Abuse and Abortion: Finding Healing in the Aftermath

Sun, 10 Mar 2024 23:49:47 GMT

There are many definitions of sexual assault; some broad and some narrow. This results in problems in reporting, both over reporting and under reporting. In their book, Rid of My Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault, Justin and Lindsey Holcomb define sexual assault as, “any type of sexual behavior or contact where consent is not freely given or obtained and is accomplished through force, intimidation, violence, coercion, manipulation, threat, deception, or abuse of authority.” The authors go on to say that, “This definition . . . expands the spectrum of actions to be considered sexual assault.”

This expanded definition helps victims who need to have a clear understanding of what exactly sexual assault is. Understanding helps survivors to know several things:

They are not alone
If they have experienced sexual assault, it is a crime.
They are not responsible for their assault
There are services available that cater to their needs

Statistics on sexual assault are disturbingly high. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) reports, “Over half of women and almost 1 in 3 men have experienced sexual violence involving physical contact during their lifetimes.”

As you can see, sexual abuse is sadly a common experience, and one that cuts to the very being of a person. That is a difficult thing for us to think about, because behind the statistics are people. The reality is that more than likely someone you love has suffered from sexual assault. Perhaps you personally know the pain that comes from the violation of your will and body.

What does it look like to live in the aftermath of such a horrible experience? For many, their lives are riddled with emotional, psychological, and/or physiological effects. Rid of my Disgrace offers an expansive list of effects, some are listed below,

Shame, self-blame, guilt, anxiety, stress, anger, confusion, sexualized behaviors, loss of sex drive, interpersonal problems, denial, irritability, depression, social withdrawal, numbing/apathy, feelings of isolation and alienation, reduced ability to express emotions, nightmares, flashbacks, physical symptoms, difficultly concentrating, negative self-image, OCD, panic attacks, confusion of sex with love, inability to judge the trustworthiness of others, self harm, suicidal ideation, hypervigilance, insomnia, promiscuity, eating problems or disorders, impaired memory, substance abuse, or a distorted view of God.

Many of the effects of sexual abuse, (such as numbing, lack of judgment, and promiscuity) can increase a woman’s vulnerability towards engaging in risky behaviors. Pregnancy Resource Centers, such as AbbaCare, provide services to many pregnant clients who are sexual abuse survivors and are seeking an abortion or have had an abortion in their past. Staff at these centers will walk alongside these women and provide non-judgmental education in a caring manner while listening to each woman’s story.

Healing from abuse is a long journey. AbbaCare helps facilitate healing from abortion through our Past Abortion Care and Encouragement (PACE) program, which is available to both post-abortive women and their partners. It is a recovery group for those seeking help and healing related to past abortion and is offered free of charge in a safe, confidential, judgment-free environment.

If you have been sexually assaulted:

Report if possible . The statute of limitations varies by state, some states offer extensions for childhood sexual abuse. More information can be found here .
Join our PACE program . AbbaCare offers the study Finding You: Recovering Your Identity After Sexual Trauma. Contact Chriswithpace@gmail.com or call 540-665-9660 to participate in the next group.
Seek counseling . There are secular and both Christian professional and lay church counselors in the area as well as online.
Read a book . If talking to someone right now seems like it would be too much, consider reading one of the listed texts below:
Treasure in the Ashes: Our Journey Home from the Ruins of Sexual Abuse, by Sue Nicewander and Maria Brookins
In the Aftermath: Past the Pain of Childhood Sexual Abuse, by Pamela Gannon and Bevery Moore
Rid of My Disgrace: Hope and Healing for Victims of Sexual Assault, by Justin S. and Lindsey A. Holcomb

AbbaCare is a nonprofit Pregnancy Resource Center currently serving in the Winchester, VA and Martinsburg, WV areas. Please contact us to schedule a free and confidential consultation appointment today.

Embracing Open Adoption

Sun, 11 Feb 2024 23:43:15 GMT

In the tight-knit community of Winchester, Virginia, where adoption discussions aren’t as common, it’s crucial to dive into the details of modern adoption. Many women here find that understanding the process can be life-changing, especially when facing challenges like drug use, unpreparedness for motherhood, or past involvement with social services.

Breaking Myths : Let’s start by clearing up some misconceptions. Unlike the old, closed adoptions, today’s adoption is a personal and customizable experience. It’s not about “giving up” a baby but a woman making choices out of love and care.

Understanding Choices : In modern adoption, a woman is in charge of her adoption plan. From picking adoptive parents to deciding on post-adoption contact and how things go at the hospital, it’s all in the hands of the expectant mother. Recognizing that these decisions take time, the agency is there to guide a woman through the process, making sure she understands all the available choices.

Getting to Know Adoptive Parents : Today’s adoption process provides the chance for women to get to know prospective adoptive parents. Women in Winchester thinking about adoption can check out profiles of families from all over the U.S. Each family has its own story, interests, and jobs. Adoption coordinators will help a woman make family connections, ensuring she feels comfortable making this significant decision.

Creating an Adoption Plan : After choosing an adoptive family, the next step is to create a personalized adoption plan. This plan covers various aspects, like outlining hospital procedures, sharing health history, and getting help with pregnancy-related expenses, per Virginia law.

Delivery and Legal Steps : For a woman’s hospital stay, she will have already stated in her plan as to whether she would like the adoptive couple at the hospital as support. She will also have stated whether she wants to spend time with the baby in the hospital. All decisions during the hospital stay concerning her and her baby’s care are made by her. Typically, within a day or two, legal professionals will help with the necessary steps to complete the adoption, ensuring the birth mother fully understands the adoption process, her rights, and feels confident in her decision.

Life After Adoption : Once the adoption is final, a new chapter begins for the birth mother. This could include staying in touch with the adoptive parents, as planned. Coordinators remain a supportive presence, offering help with future plans if needed. Many women who choose modern adoption feel proud of their decision and might even become peer counselors to support others on a similar journey. Whether a birth mother is already a parent or sees this as a chance for a fresh start, the support from coordinators helps shape a positive future based on the goals set early in the process.

Modern adoption reflects the resilience and love that steer the decisions of birth mothers. It’s about building lasting connections, ensuring a future enriched with love, understanding, and closeness for both the birth mother and the child. Modern adoption goes beyond being a mere process; it’s a journey marked by empowerment, choice, and a willingness to explore the potential for a brighter future!

Lifetime Adoption

Providing Safe and Successful Adoptions since 1986

Call : (727) 493-0933 Fax: (877) 293-3882

24hr Hotline : 1-800-923-6784

Referral information provided by the pregnancy center does not mean that the center guarantees or endorses the providers/agencies. These organizations are not affiliated with the center but rather are independent agencies. The center provides these referrals for your convenience only and does not necessarily endorse the materials, policies or practices of these providers/agencies. By accepting referral information from the center, you understand and agree that the center is in no way responsible for the acts, omissions, results or services of any of the providers/agencies. You are responsible for interviewing and selecting suitable providers/agencies. Therefore, you should do your own inquiry and contact providers/agencies directly for relevant information, such as information on insurance coverage. If you are under 18 years of age, the center recommends that you seek advice of a parent/guardian in considering providers/agencies.

Family Food Prepping on a Single Income: Tips to Provide More by Spending Less

Wed, 31 Jan 2024 23:38:50 GMT

Is it possible to feed a large family on a single income without busting your budget? With a little creative planning, it is! Read on for tried and true tips from a mom of four.

Shopping

Where? The days of coupon cutting are over. Sure, you can find a good coupon deal every now and then, but for the most part where you shop will have more of an impact on your budget. Aldi is a great resource for budget friendly finds. They have a nice variety of kid approved prepackaged snacks that are easy on the wallet. Normally, anything that isn’t made from scratch is going to cost too much to justify the expense, but stores such as Aldi make it easier to say yes to that box of gummy bears they want to pack in their lunch. Sharp Shopper also has great deals on groceries, just be sure to check expiration dates for the freshest picks.
Compare! Comparison shopping can save a lot of money, if you have the time to devote to it. Knowing the usual price of your particular pantry’s staples is key, if you are short on time. Save receipts and keep a list of those staples and prices for future reference. When the price of your favorite brand goes up, it may be time to switch to another brand that’s more affordable
Look there! Always, always, always look for the sticker that tells you the unit price on an item. The lower the unit price, the better the deal, and if you have a lot of mouths to feed, a better deal matters!

Cooking

Being an “ingredients household” may mean the kids can’t grab a snack instead of waiting for dinner to be served, but that will help your finances, and their appetites, in the long run. Here’s another example of how investing a little time can save you some dough (the spendable kind): Meal planning and prep. Meals fully cooked from scratch are going to yield you the biggest savings. This usually requires the largest time commitment. Resources like the Passionate Penny Pincher can help you learn how to prep enough freezer meals in two hours to last for 2 weeks! Planning ahead is key.
If you have a wide range of ages to feed, include things like pasta or sweet potatoes that are appropriate for toddlers to teens. Rice, beans, and ground meat are other basic foods that can be simplified or seasoned up for various ages and preferences. These double as some of the best use of your grocery dollars, as well.
It’s tempting to try and please everyone at your table with every meal. As a mother of a particularly picky child, I get it. A good rule of thumb is to plan and prepare the most nutritious, affordable foods you can. There may be a learning curve, especially if you are used to convenience foods, but with some time you just might find you and your children prefer simple home-cooked meals.

Not all of these changes have to happen overnight, but you can start with a single step to save money and provide nutritious meals for you and your family! Set achievable goals at a pace that works for you and have fun saving!

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving Winchester Virginia, Martinsburg West Virginia, and the Northern Shenandoah Valley. To learn more about our free and confidential services, visit our website today.

Holiday Planning on Any Budget

Sun, 10 Dec 2023 23:35:55 GMT

It seems that every year the holiday season comes a little quicker than the previous year, taking us by surprise when it’s mid-November and we don’t have a plan for our holiday spending. Sound familiar? Don’t fret, Christmas can be a memorable holiday regardless of how little or how much you spend. But, if you want to look into holiday budgeting this season, read below for ways to start saving now!

TRAVELING

The holidays are a time when many people travel out of town to visit loved ones. Some easy ways to save money are to buy travel tickets in advance, drive your own vehicle, use public transportation and travel during the “off-season.” You can often save money by staying with friends and family or even finding a rental home big enough to split the cost with others who are traveling as well.

HOSTING

Christmastime is often a season of gatherings, usually involving food, decor and activities. Maybe you are the one hosting everyone this year and you are looking for ways not to break the bank while also making Christmas beautiful for your loved ones. If that’s the case, and you want your holiday decorations to stand out, look for creative new ways you can re-use your decor or even find some DIY ideas that you can also turn into group activities.

One of the best ways to save money is to have people pitch in! Whether that means you ask your guests to bring food, plan activities, or just have people help you put it all together, allow others to help you, if they are able! There are so many free group games and activities you can find online that are a really fun way to bring people together, and there’s nothing wrong with keeping things simple and small scale.

GIFT GIVING

One of the easiest ways to go overboard with holiday spending is with gifts! But, if you’re trying to stick to a budget, this is a great opportunity to plan ahead and might even lead to some creative, money-saving ideas. First, you could simply decide what your budget is and divide that accordingly, or just decide to stay under a certain amount for whomever you want to buy gifts for. You could take things a step further and work something out with family members and decide to do something like a “Secret Santa” gift exchange, so you’re only buying gifts for one person. A fun way to save money and have a personal touch is to give handmade gifts , and if you start this year, you can start saving bags and boxes to recycle the gift-wrapping to use again!

There are many creative ways to save money and these are just a few ideas to get you started! Figure out where you want to spend the majority of your time and energy, then, budget accordingly. Have fun saving and giving this holiday season!

We’re pregnant, now what? “He wants an abortion, she doesn’t.”

Sun, 29 Oct 2023 23:32:46 GMT

Scenario 2: The father wants an abortion but the mother doesn’t.

Now let’s talk about what it looks like when the roles are reversed.

A woman finds out that she is pregnant and quickly learns that she and her partner are not on the same page. She wants to continue the pregnancy but her partner wants to terminate. Immediately, a woman may be feeling unable to continue alone, unsupported or unloved by her partner, and powerless in this situation. She may feel hopeless-but there is still hope! With the right support and resources, like those provided by AbbaCare, women can be empowered to embrace their pregnancy with confidence.

A woman should start by informing herself and her partner with the facts, and even if there is resistance, share their thoughts with their partner! Show them the pictures, the heartbeat, and encourage them to see things from your perspective. If that feels scary, here at AbbaCare we have a men’s coaching program where men are equipped to walk alongside the father of the baby and encourage them. There is hope!

Even if the father decides to leave in this situation, a woman should still feel empowered to move forward in her pregnancy. By providing material assistance, classes, and referrals to local medical and maternity resources, AbbaCare is ready to face this challenge alongside these women.

Just know, the father of the baby has no legal right to make a woman abort her pregnancy, and if a mother is experiencing any type of abusive behavior from their partner, a way out is possible. Local shelters such as The Laurel Center provide safe housing and educational resources to women and their children fleeing an abusive home situation.

Abortion regret is real, and oftentimes mothers suffer psychologically, physically, or both. If a woman is facing an unplanned pregnancy, we are here to help.

Come Together

Ultimately, what it takes to tackle these divisive problems is to come together and talk about it. Parents should feel empowered to share their fears and thoughts. Every relationship is different from their experiences, to financial stability, family dynamics and housing issues. Sometimes pregnancy decisions are not the only issues people are facing; it can be daunting to face an unplanned pregnancy when dealing with several other stressors. At AbbaCare, we want parents to know they can receive support not only from us, but also from many other local organizations who are equipped to help families just like them. In the midst of a life-changing situation, it is important to slow down, breathe, be informed and find hope.

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving women, men, and families facing unexpected pregnancies. To learn more about our free, confidential services, visit abbacare.org .

We’re pregnant, now what? “She wants an abortion, he doesn’t.”

Sun, 29 Oct 2023 23:30:12 GMT

“How did this happen?” “How do I tell my partner?” “I can’t handle a child.” “What do I do next?”

A positive pregnancy test result from an unplanned pregnancy can produce questions like the ones above. The expectant mother may be overwhelmed with uncertainty and disbelief. The problems she sees are big, and they seem even bigger when the father of the baby isn’t on the same page. What does it look like when a mother desires to carry a pregnancy to term but the father of the baby doesn’t, and vice versa? How can couples come together on this issue? What does the law say about this? What resources are available during this time of crisis?

Before making a pregnancy decision, it is vital to confirm several things about pregnancy. A woman needs to confirm the pregnancy location (in the uterus or not), viability (capable of continued life and growth), and the estimated gestational age of the baby. An ultrasound can determine all of this information.

Scenario 1: The mother wants an abortion but the father of the baby doesn’t.

What can be done if the woman has decided to have an abortion, but her partner wants her to have the baby? After getting the answers, and following the process above, the woman is now educated and informed, ready to make a decision. Ideally, she and the father will discuss the information together, and share their feelings about each option. Even though they are on different pages, it is important to see it from every angle, know legal rights and ultimately make a decision. If possible, the couple should make the choice together, but according to Family Law Rights it is the sole legal obligation of the pregnant woman to make this decision, and a father’s consent is not required.

“Should a male’s pregnant partner wish to seek an abortion, the male’s consent is not required by law. A woman may make the choice to terminate a pregnancy, even if the alleged father objects to the procedure. The reasoning behind this is twofold, based on the woman’s right to medical privacy and the fact of the female body being more directly affected by the pregnancy. During the Supreme Court Case of Planned Parenthood vs. Danforth , the court ruled that requiring a father’s consent to having an abortion was unconstitutional since a male’s refusal would essentially veto the woman’s right to choose.”

Problem solved, right? Not necessarily. While it may provide relief to know that the law is on the side of the woman carrying the child, there is still an immense responsibility in making that decision. So how does anyone considering all of the options decide? They seek council. By talking to other women who have made the choice to carry or to terminate their pregnancy, families can find support and the resources they need to make an educated and informed decision. There is no need to feel rushed or pressured. It is especially important for them to talk to their partner and find out why they want this child, how they want to support this baby, and how they can work together to make a decision. Here at AbbaCare we are here to provide material and educational resources, and most of all love and support for the women and men that walk through our doors and are facing a tough pregnancy decision.

Across the nation, Pregnancy Resource Centers just like AbbaCare provide free pregnancy testing, free ultrasounds, free STI/STD testing, and many other free resources to the women and families in their community with the goal of empowering women and families to make informed decisions. For women who do obtain an abortion, AbbaCare provides anonymous abortion recovery through our Past Abortion Care and Encouragement ( PACE ) program. If you, or someone you know, is struggling with a past abortion experience, there is hope and healing. Reach out today.

Visit our next blog, Scenario 2 “The father wants an abortion but the mother doesn’t.”

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving women, men, and families facing unexpected pregnancies. To learn more about our free, confidential services, visit abbacare.org .

National Hispanic Heritage Month

Sun, 17 Sep 2023 23:26:22 GMT

Hispanic Heritage Month is celebrated from September 15 to October 15 each year by those in our community with Hispanic or Latino heritage. President Lyndon B Johnson proclaimed this holiday, which was originally a week long in 1968 to commemorate many of the United States neighbor’s gaining their independence from Spain. In 1988 thanks to legislative sponsor, Rep. Esteban Edward Torres and President Ronald Reagan, who signed it into law, the week was expanded to a month of celebration so that in the words of Rep. Torres, our nation could, “properly observe and coordinate events and activities to celebrate Hispanic culture and achievement.”

Celebrating Our Local Hispanic Community

Locally, Hispanic Heritage will be celebrated on September 23rd here in Winchester, Virginia. There will be a fun family event held on the Old Town Walking Mall from noon until 4pm. Celebración of Winchester will include music, Latin food, community resources, children’s activities and much more.

For those willing to travel a little bit there are many fun and educational events in the Washington, DC area. Family fun events, dance parties, museum and art exhibits as well as concerts can all be found during the month of September.

https://www.hispanicheritagemonth.gov/

So have fun celebrating some of the diversity that our area has been blessed by!

Dios te doy gracias y te bendigo!

The Difference Between Midwives and OB/GYNs: What to Expect and Consider During Pregnancy

Sun, 27 Aug 2023 23:21:45 GMT

What to expect with a Midwife?

Women may choose a midwife over a doctor because they want additional emotional support before, during, and after delivery. A midwife will get to know you, your family and your preferences over the course of your pregnancy. Because midwives are actively involved in the preparation of the delivery, you may be more relaxed and comfortable when your due date arrives.

While many midwives are advocates for natural childbirth, a common myth is that they will not give a woman pain medications during labor. Midwives can prescribe medications and provide an epidural for pain relief if that is your preference during labor.

All nurse midwives are trained to recognize problems that might occur during pregnancy and delivery. If, during your labor, you become high-risk or emergency surgery is necessary, they will call in an OB/GYN as a backup. Your midwife can still stay by your side and may be able to assist with the delivery.

What to expect with an OB/GYN?

If you decide to have a doctor deliver your baby you’ll experience a more routine approach . On the delivery day you can expect nurses to be with you, constantly monitoring you and your infant’s progress and health. Doctors in hospitals may have more than one patient and will check in on you periodically to see how your labor is progressing. They will also be there for the delivery.

What else should I consider?

If your pregnancy isn’t high-risk, consider the following questions when trying to decide what provider would be right for you:

Where do you want to have your baby?
OB/GYNs almost always deliver babies in hospitals. Midwives may work in hospitals, birthing centers, or maybe even your home.
What is your approach to birth?
Midwives tend to offer more hands-on support during labor. They tend to favor more natural approaches to pain management and labor management
OB/GYNs may be working with multiple patients at once so they can’t necessarily offer as much one on one coaching or emotional support.
Do you plan on a vaginal birth or a C-Section?
Midwives can’t perform c-sections, though they may be able to help a doctor perform one.

Abortion Pill Information

Sun, 09 Jul 2023 23:06:15 GMT

Abortion Pill Information. When first realizing they are facing an unplanned pregnancy, many women experience a flood of emotions: shock, fear, panic, even dread. They often feel alone and overwhelmed, and therefore it’s natural to want to look for a way to make the problem go away as quickly as possible.

There has been so much in the news and media in recent years about the abortion pill, and to many women, it seems like the fastest and easiest abortion option out there.

Unfortunately as is the case with most “quick fixes” in life, what seems to be quick and easy may not actually be so. There are things women need to know about the abortion pill before determining if it is the plan of action they want to pursue.

First, let’s look at what the abortion pill actually is. Even though this abortive method is commonly referred to as a “pill” (singular), it actually involves the use of more than one medication in a two-step process. Typically, a woman takes RU-486 prior to taking misoprostol. Another similar medical abortion procedure (MTX) uses the medications methotrexate and misoprostol.

Secondly, there are several other names or terms that are sometimes used to mean the same thing as the abortion pill. These include Plan C abortion, telemedicine abortion, medical abortion, chemical abortion, self-managed abortion, and self-induced miscarriage.

Third, regardless of the name used to describe this type of procedure, there are inherent side effects and risks involved for the woman. For this reason it is very important for women to be seen in person by a licensed medical professional to assess her overall health as well as to definitively identify the gestational age of the pregnancy by way of an ultrasound. (Calculating how far along the pregnancy is by the woman’s last period is often incorrect, and many women discover that they are farther along than they thought they were, which can affect whether the abortion pill is an option.)

At AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center , we can help you work through those feelings of fear and panic, so you can think clearly about your options. We can go over detailed information regarding all abortion procedures including the abortion pill. We can also perform a free diagnostic ultrasound to determine the gestational age of the pregnancy (as well as addressing other risk factors that could cause a problem with the abortion pill).

Call 540.665.9660 (Winchester, VA area) or 304.726.6582 (Martinsburg, WV area) for your free, confidential pregnancy consultation. We welcome the opportunity to empower you to have all the facts before making your decision.

(Not in our area? Click here to find a pregnancy resource center near you .)

Outside Sources Consulted:

Mayo Clinic: https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/medical-abortion/about/pac-20394687

U.S. Food and Drug Administration: https://www.fda.gov/drugs/postmarket-drug-safety-information-patients-and-providers/mifeprex-mifepristone-information

Developing a Hobby

Sun, 11 Jun 2023 23:02:37 GMT

Developing a Hobby. Have you ever been asked what your hobbies are? Maybe you don’t think you have a hobby. Well, you probably do, but you may not even realize it. A hobby is an activity done regularly in one’s leisure time. Hobbies don’t have to be anything extreme or difficult, it’s really as simple as choosing an activity that you enjoy and making time for it. According to Psychology Today , many people will say that they are too busy to develop a hobby. We habitually waste time creating the illusion of busyness with things such as online media. In reality, we do have the time and hobbies can be a great way to express yourself through something that makes you feel happy and relaxed.

So, what are your interests? Some examples of hobbies might include swimming, walking, sewing, biking, hiking, gardening, fishing, cooking, baking, bird watching, rock collecting, antiquing, and the list goes on. Hobbies can be just about any leisurely activity that you enjoy. However, make sure you are enjoying it, or it will not be very fun, and you won’t stick with it. When starting a new hobby, consider adding an accountability partner or joining a group with like-minded people who share your passion. It’s not as easy to put off that new hobby if someone else is counting on you to do it with them. Plus, you can share your progress along the way. They say there is strength in numbers, so call up a friend or get the family engaged!

Hobbies provide many health benefits. Researchers say that along with exercise, low stress, and balanced nutrition, time spent on leisurely activities is a key ingredient to the recipe for longevity. Studies also show that hobbies are a big part of the success in those that live longer, stronger, and healthier lives. Hobbies help keep our brains active and can improve memory and concentration while boosting overall cognitive health. Relaxing activities are a form of stress relief that can have a very positive effect on our bodies and our minds. According to verywellmind.com , living a low-stress life not only makes you feel better physically, but they say it can even help you heal from injuries. Participating in leisure activities has also been associated with lower levels of depression and can be a great coping mechanism.

So, get out there and start a new hobby today to improve your health and well-being! Grab your friends, family, and start making each moment count.

Mental Health Awareness

Thu, 18 May 2023 22:59:11 GMT

May is Mental Health Awareness month . You figure, if an entire month is dedicated to a cause, then it must be pretty important. Mental health is paramount to the overall health of human beings. We will often use the sayings, “Mind over matter, or “If you think it, or dream it, you can do it, or be it.” It all begins with the mindset. What we feed our bodies affects our physical outcomes; in the same way, what we pour into our minds, influences our thoughts and actions. Identifying the positive and negative factors in our lives can help reorient how we spend our time, and who we spend it with.

Positive interactions.

Humans are designed to live in community with one another. Whether introverted or extroverted, people will often gravitate towards those who build them up and contribute to their well-being in a meaningful way. Isolation, on the other hand, is often viewed negatively, such as in the context of an isolated elderly person or single mother living alone with her children. Some exclusions may include fans of Henry David Thoreau, or persons seeking solitude in extreme nature who are content to be alone and prefer it that way. Whichever type of person you are, it is important to surround yourself with people who support you and create a positive influence in your life.

Our social encounters can have a major impact on our mental health. For those who believe in a higher power, mental and spiritual health are often intertwined. An example would be a follower of Jesus Christ, who, by being around others that share their doctrinal beliefs and faith, are both edified and encouraged to grow deeper within their convictions. Spending time with people who have shared interests can also help improve one’s talents and hobbies, such as art, music, and sports. Make a mental or literal note of the people you surround yourself with. Do they encourage and uplift your spirits? Or do they speak negatively and give counsel that is contrary to what you believe? This isn’t to say opposition to your beliefs is bad, because challenges can produce both resilience and confirmation of beliefs. However, for long-term exposure, a safe place of like-minded individuals creates a fostering environment instead of living in a constant state of defense or offense with your companions.

Disconnect and reconnect.

Living in a digital age where we fill our virtual calendars to the brim, we often find ourselves with little-to-no time for quietness and being still. A shift needs to occur where we make the time for personal development and mental health rather than hoping we will have enough time left over each day to achieve the things we want. If health changes are a priority, such as walking more, but there is no time left in your schedule to do this, then you are not setting yourself up for success. Limiting digital screen time, such as watching videos or TV, going on social media, etc., will free up more time to be present in your surroundings. Reading is a great way to focus your attention and tune out white noise distractions. Not into books? A quiet rest may be just what you need. Oh, you have trouble sitting still? Scroll down.

Spending time in nature.

Studies have shown that time in green spaces can significantly improve your mental health and overall performance. In the article “ Nurtured by Nature ,” the American Psychological Association (APA) says spending time in nature can act as a balm for our busy brains and interacting with nature has cognitive benefits. Being in the great outdoors can decrease stress and improve retention. It’s beneficial to take a break in between tasks to go outside and enjoy the simplicity and peacefulness of nature, then return indoors feeling refreshed and ready to resume your work with vigor! Small excursions into nature are enough to reset the mind – no intense mountain climbing or expedition hiking required!

On the move.

Do yourself a favor and get moving. Not everyone was born to run a marathon or compete in the National Olympics. We’re talking baby steps here. If you are sedentary, sitting for many hours a day, try standing for a few minutes a day. If you are able to walk, increase your steps and take time to move your body for 30 minutes. Routine exercise significantly improves both mental and physical health. Making exercise a habit and a priority will have both short-term and long-term benefits. Daily walks will improve stamina and improve mental health by alleviating some stressors from the day. Long-term physical health will be improved by maintaining muscle tone, weight loss, and blood flow circulation, which can improve cardiovascular health. Adding a walking partner may be helpful for some, while others may enjoy the solitude of a solo walk or run, listening to the sounds of nature, music, or focusing on the sound of their breathing. Whatever pace and style works for you, do that.

Journaling and reflecting.

Disconnecting from the demands of the day and reflecting on one’s thoughts is a good way to unwind and refocus our energy toward our priorities. Writing down thoughts, concerns, and future tasks, can help take the pressure off your brain. Write down simple goals, actions that you are doing to achieve those goals, and routinely reevaluate how things are going. Also, how are you feeling? Have your priorities or goals changed? Create a new goal with objectives to reach it. If you find that you are consistently not meeting your goals or changing goals halfway through, make sure the goals you are setting are reasonably achievable. Set smaller goals, if needed.

Stress is a part of life. But, if you find yourself unable to cope with daily stressors, or emotions of anxiety, or depression, it may be time to seek professional mental health help .

AbbaCare is a nonprofit Pregnancy Resource Center currently serving in the Winchester, VA and Martinsburg, WV areas. When making any decision, it is important to know the facts. If you or someone you know is facing an unplanned, or unexpectedly difficult, pregnancy and would like to learn more about our services, please contact us here or by calling 540.665.9660 in Winchester or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg.

Be Your Own Healthcare Advocate

Sun, 16 Apr 2023 22:55:43 GMT

Be your own healthcare advocate. How can I advocate for myself during my pregnancy?

The first step in your pregnancy should be finding the right healthcare provider . You are going to be seeing a lot of each other and making decisions together about your prenatal and postpartum care. You need someone you feel comfortable with. Consider the following questions when deciding if a provider is right for you.

Do you feel comfortable communicating your needs to this person?
Do you feel comfortable asking questions or raising concerns?
Do you feel respected?
Do you feel heard?

A good relationship with your healthcare provider means you feel comfortable bringing up your questions and concerns and being confident that their answers are in your best interest.

The next step is to know that healthcare providers must obtain your informed consent prior to beginning a treatment or procedure. In order to do so, they must ensure that you are able to make a free choice and understand your treatment options. This requirement is meant to protect you against unwanted medical interventions and to ensure that you are an active participant in your own medical care. If you are confused about something your doctor is saying or they are using complex medical jargon, you are well within your rights to ask for a clarification. Medical professionals must take the time to explain everything in terms you will understand and also must respect your choices. Ultimately, it is your body and your pregnancy.

Advocating for yourself is not the same as being pushy. There is a difference between being assertive and being confrontational. You have a voice in your prenatal care and the delivery room. You are not a passive participant. At every turn you have the legal right to informed consent and right of refusal. That means you can say “No” or “Stop” at any time. You’re also entitled to a full discussion with your care provider about the risks and potential benefits of anything they are suggesting, and about your alternatives, with the right to say “no” to anything.

Finally, ask questions. Asking questions is an excellent way to advocate for yourself, especially when something doesn’t feel right. By learning more about what’s going on, you can make a more informed decision and have a better sense of whether or not you’re comfortable with what’s happening. Another benefit to asking lots of questions is that it tips off your nurse or provider that you are having some big feelings about what’s going on. It could be fear, confusion, or uncertainty. A good provider or nurse will notice that because of your questions and help you feel more educated.

Consider asking open-ended questions instead of questions that can be answered with a simple “yes” or “no.” Phrasing questions with “what” or “why” or “how” will give way to more detailed answers from your healthcare provider. Chances are, having more information will make you feel more comfortable.

Still unclear? It’s OK to keep asking your healthcare provider for clarification until you understand the answer. Ask them ‘What does that mean?’ or ‘Can you explain that to me?’ until you feel informed about what’s going on. Remain calm and persistent until your concerns are addressed. And if things get tense when you bring up questions, that may be a sign that you need to find another healthcare provider.

All Things Spring

Tue, 14 Mar 2023 22:52:14 GMT

All things spring. Feeling the need to freshen things up? There are many benefits to having a clean and tidy home. And what’s spring without nature? In this article, we will explore the positive connections between spring and cleaning.

Did you know, that clean spaces can help elevate one’s mood? An article by REALSIMPLE, discusses the effect of a clean home on a person’s mental health, “Experts agree that tidy, organized spaces can improve mental health.” Mental health benefits can include “a sense of clarity and control, an improved quality of life, a boosted sense of confidence, an increase in productivity, and a more tranquil atmosphere.” If you’re feeling overwhelmed at the thought of a total house cleaning, break the tasks into smaller, more manageable, tasks. For example, if tackling an entire room seems impossible in the moment, start with a drawer in that room, a bookshelf, or one cabinet. Make clean-up goals simple and doable.

Make a list.

Whether you live in a house, apartment, or in a smaller shared living space, it can be difficult to find a launching site for cleaning to begin. Spring cleaning checklists can help prioritize cleaning projects. They guide the cleaning process by going systematically room by room to avoid the “rabbit trail cleaning method.” Going from one room to another, doing random projects all around the house, can be exhausting and not as rewarding as completing an entire area or room. We want to work smarter, not harder.

The more the merrier.

Another way to clean more with less (of your energy) is to invite others to join in on the cleaning! Parents can find small tasks for children to do, which will help to keep them occupied and working towards the goal of making a tidy space rather than creating more mess! Or have little ones contained in one area in which they are free to play and not sabotage cleaning efforts. If available and close by, invite friends and family to come over for a cleaning party. Involving others in your efforts makes cleaning more enjoyable because it expedites the process, and the group setting can make cleaning, dare we say it, fun! (Tip: A provided meal is usually a great way to entice free labor.)

Give it up. Out with the old, in with the new.

Don’t give up on your spring cleaning efforts. But, as you clean, assess items that have long been neglected and unused. Be mindful of which items you actually wore throughout the year. Will this item be used in the near future? Gift or donate items that are just creating clutter in your home. Removing old items allows for more space and less items you have to tidy up! Springtime is also a great time to go through your wardrobe, removing unworn items and preparing space for some fresh new looks! It’s important to take the time to evaluate your belongings periodically to keep things that you want to keep and to toss items you don’t.

A natural state of mind.

After all the cleaning is done, spring will be here and the outdoors will be beckoning you to get outside. What a clean and tidy home does for mental health, nature does the same. According to the American Psychological Association (APA), exposure to nature has both physical and psychological benefits to human wellbeing. Whether walking through a green space in an urban setting or hiking in the wilderness, the benefits of being in nature can include improved cognition, lower stress, and an improved and happier mood. One UK study found [that] people who had spent at least 120 minutes in nature a week, reported significantly greater health and well-being.

Looking for ways to get connected to nature? In 2012, the United Nations proclaimed March 21st the International Day of Forests . A day to “celebrate and raise awareness of the importance of all types of forests.” The Food and Agriculture Organization (FAO) of the United Nations has an idea list for people to observe this global appreciation of forests. Little Bins for Little Hands provides a list of Fun Nature Activities for Kids . Whether walking, playing, getting organized, or going outside, these activities will improve so many aspects of your health. Why wait? It’s time to get started.

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving Winchester Virginia, Martinsburg West Virginia, and the Northern Shenandoah Valley. All of our services are free and confidential. Call us today to schedule an appointment at 540.665.9660 (Winchester) or 304.726.6582 (Martinsburg) or by sending us a message .

Pharmacies to Provide Abortion Pill

Sun, 19 Feb 2023 22:45:02 GMT

Pharmacies to Provide Abortion Pill. Earlier this year, the United States FDA approved the pharmaceutical distribution of the abortion medication, mifepristone, or Mifeprex. The other medication used in a medical abortion, misoprostol, had already received FDA approval for pharmacies to dispense with a prescription. This new measure will increase abortion pill access in states where abortion is legal. Previously, these medications had to be obtained from abortion providers.

Pharmacies wanting to provide mifepristone pills will be required to complete guidelines issued by the FDA to qualify as dispensing sites. One stipulation is that the anonymity of the abortion prescriber be protected by the pharmacy and their identity remain unknown to the public. Retail pharmacies, Walgreens and CVS, have said publicly that they will offer the medication, according to the New York Times . Online pharmacies are also anticipated to provide the abortion pills with a prescription.

While access to medical abortion medications expands, the importance of pregnancy confirmation is essential for the safety of the mother. Confirming the location of the pregnancy, viability, and gestational age of the pregnancy is paramount when considering termination. Abortion pills will not be effective in terminating an ectopic pregnancy that occurs outside of the uterus. Symptoms of a ruptured ectopic can be masked by symptoms of the abortion medications. Delayed diagnosis and treatment of an ectopic pregnancy can be life-threatening. The viability and gestational age of the pregnancy will determine which procedures are available.

Medical abortions now account for over half of all elective abortions in the United States. With this increase, many women who begin a medical abortion will reconsider their decision and seek an alternative solution even while in the midst of the abortion pill regimen ( Charlotte Lozier Institute ). A reversal process, abortion pill reversal (APR) , is available to women who have attempted to end their pregnancies by “the abortion pill.” The treatment involves the use of progesterone to reverse the effects of mifepristone, a hormone blocker. APR has been successful in over 68% of cases. The reversal is most effective if the treatment is administered within 72 hours of taking mifepristone. APR provides a national hotline that will connect a woman to an APR provider closest to her location.

Abortion Pill Reversal 24/7 HOTLINE: (855) 209- 4848

At AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center , we offer information on all your pregnancy options. You will visit with a registered nurse as well as a client advocate who can answer all your questions and make sure you have all the information you need about the very important decision ahead of you. All our services are free and confidential, and we do not benefit from any choice you make.

Call 540.665.9660 in Winchester, VA or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg, WV or click here to email us. Not in our area? Click here to find a free pregnancy center near you.

Baby Blues and Postpartum Depression

Wed, 11 Jan 2023 22:41:14 GMT

Baby Blues and Postpartum Depression. After a mother returns home with her newborn, she goes through a period of adjustments. Physical, mental, and emotional changes are occurring while she is caring for her baby. After pregnancy, a woman may experience mood swings, “baby blues” or a more serious syndrome called postpartum depression (PPD). Knowing the difference between baby blues and PPD will help a mother and her partner to recognize the symptoms she is having and when it is time to seek help.

Feeling All the Feels

Hormones can greatly affect a woman’s mood before, during and after pregnancy. Hormone levels are fluctuating and many thoughts along with them. New mothers may expect to be in a “honeymoon” phase after giving birth to their child. And, in many ways, this is a time filled with great joy and contentment. However, mothers may experience symptoms of baby blues. According to the American Pregnancy Association, “Approximately 70-80% of all new mothers experience some negative feelings or mood swings after the birth of their child.” Although the direct cause is unknown, with fluctuating hormone levels, baby blues are thought to occur due to chemical changes in the brain that lead to depression.

Symptoms of baby blues can include:

Weepiness or crying for no apparent reason
Impatience
Irritability
Restlessness
Anxiety
Fatigue
Insomnia (even when the baby is sleeping)
Sadness
Mood changes
Poor concentration

Postpartum depression is a more serious mood disorder that, unlike baby blues, does not resolve on its own. According to the American Psychological Association, “Up to 1 in 7 women experience PPD.” PPD can appear, “days or even months after delivering a baby; it can last for many weeks or months if left untreated.” PPD can affect mothers of any age, race, culture, economic status, and education level. First time or experienced mothers can develop symptoms as well as women who have a history of depression and those with no history.

Symptoms of postpartum depression include:

A loss of pleasure or interest in things you used to enjoy
Appetite changes
Extreme anxiety or panic attacks
Disturbing thoughts
Feeling guilty or worthless—blaming yourself
Excessive irritability, anger, or agitation—mood swings
Sadness, crying uncontrollably for very long periods of time
Excessive fear of not being a good mother
Fear of being left alone with the baby
Inability to sleep, sleeping too much, difficulty falling or staying asleep
Disinterest in the baby, family, and friends
Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, or making decisions
Thoughts of hurting yourself or the baby (see below for numbers to call to get immediate help)

Many women feel concerned that they will be considered bad mothers or that their child will be taken away from them if they are honest about how they are feeling; however, the goal of the physician is to remove the risk of harm to the mother and the infant. Sometimes therapy, such as talking with a counselor, or prescription medication, are necessary. For many women, treatment is short-term until hormone levels are balanced, and thoughts are stabilized. It is important to know that postpartum depression is a psychological disorder that can be treated, and the mother is not to blame for how she is feeling.

For more information on baby blues and postpartum depression risk factors and ways to alleviate symptoms, clink on the links below to visit the American Pregnancy Association and American Psychological Association websites.

The Baby Blues | American Pregnancy Association

Postpartum depression (apa.org)

If you are having thoughts of hurting yourself or your baby, take action now:

Put the baby in a safe place, like a crib. Call a friend or family member for help if you need to.

Call a suicide hotline (free and staffed all day, every day):

National Hopeline Network

1-800-SUICIDE (1-800-784-2433)

National Strategy for Suicide Prevention: LifeLine

1-800-273-TALK (1-800-273-8255)

Has hotlines for every state

PPDMoms

1-800-PPDMOMS (1-800-773-6667)

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving women, men, and families facing unexpected pregnancies. To learn more about our free, confidential services, visit abbacare.org .

Cheerful Community Giving

Tue, 13 Dec 2022 22:30:56 GMT

Cheerful Community Giving. At the end of the year, many may feel the strain of stretched finances after the holiday spending season is over. Receiving assistance with the day-to-day material household needs is a wonderful benefit provided by many community organizations. Cheerful givers can bless recipients with the gift of needed items such as clothing, food, and financial assistance.

“For it is in giving that we receive.”

-Francis of Assisi

Within the Winchester, VA and Martinsburg, WV areas, there are many non-profit organizations that proudly serve their communities year-round and especially during the holidays/winter months when funds and resources are limited for many people. A list of some of these organizations is found below; please visit their websites for more information or contact them directly for material assistance needs!

Winchester, VA

CLOTHING, FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE & FOOD

Blue Ridge Hospice Thrift Shop CLOTHING

(540)-542-0202

CCAP CLOTHING, FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE & FOOD

(540)-662-4318

FOOD PANTRIES.ORG FOOD

Winchester, VA Food Pantries List

Goodwill CLOTHING

(540)-723-6864

Hope Again Care Center CLOTHING & FOOD

(540)-450-8935

Salvation Army Thrift Store CLOTHING

(540)-722-2749

Salvation Army FINANCIAL ASSISTANCE

(540)-662-4777

Martinsburg, WV

FOOD PANTRIES, MEAL SERVICES, CLOTHING CLOSETS & MORE

CCAP also called Loaves & Fishes Food Pantry

(304)-263-3940

Many resources are available for Berkeley County residents. Everything from dental care to gasoline or clothing vouchers for work.

There is also free emergency food, meals for the homeless, transportation (including Meals on Wheels for the homebound) and much more.

The food pantry is open from 10AM to 1PM daily.

Church Without Walls

(304)-260-9509

A clothing warehouse and God’s store house pantry are on site. There are also Adopt a Family Christmas toy programs for children and holiday meals.

Catholic Charities WV

(304)-267-8837

Food bank and the church may have some of the following: Personal hygiene supplies, assistance for immigrants, shelter, money for rent or medications and other services.

Salvation Army

505 Virginia Avenue

Martinsburg, WV 25401

They offer free Thanksgiving or Christmas meals, school supplies, as well as clothing vouchers.

Faith Feeding Freedom

(681)-242-2600

“Feeding the Homeless and Hungry” every Friday at 11:30AM at the Martinsburg Library.

The Clothes Closet of First Baptist Church of Inwood, WV

(304)-229-3690

A used clothing ministry, The Clothes Closet is open the first Saturday of every month from 9AM – 12PM.

Destiny Baptist Church

(304)-267-4489

Soup Kitchen 3rd Tuesday of the month 11AM-12PM

People of Worth

(304)-240-2398

Market and Clothing Shop.

226 Winchester Ave. Martinsburg WV 25401

Tuesday and Thursday 9-11AM and Saturday 2-4 PM

Second Baptist Church

(304)-263-7810

Clothing closet open Thursdays 10AM-1PM

911 N. High St. Martinsburg, WV 25401

For housing resources, visit our blog, “ Homeless and Pregnant: Finding Emergency or Transitional Housing .”

Nesting

Sun, 06 Nov 2022 22:23:23 GMT

Preparing the Nest

Hey, Moms! Feeling a sudden urge to clean out your sock drawer and organize your spice rack? Do you find yourself rearranging furniture at 3 a.m. or sweeping out the garage that you just swept yesterday? If so, you haven’t lost your mind. You’re just doing what comes naturally! You’re nesting!! (Yes, expectant birds do it too, along with just about every other animal!)

You may think it’s a myth, but nesting is actually a real phenomenon that many moms experience at some point in the third trimester. You may also experience it early in pregnancy, or not at all. Nevertheless, that superhuman burst of energy is God’s way of getting you ready to nurture your child. In addition, it’s the perfect opportunity to knock out those projects that might seem impossible once baby arrives and you hardly have time to shower!

So, here are a few tips to make your nesting days a big success!

Tip 1: Safety First!

Your balance shifts as your baby grows, so be sure to avoid climbing ladders, lifting heavy objects or overreaching.
It’s also important to stay well-hydrated and take plenty of snack breaks and rest. The extra weight of your pregnancy makes your body work harder, and you’ll want to save some of that energy for labor!
Don’t get overheated.
Avoid using bleach or any other strong, toxic cleaner, and open windows and wear gloves even when using mild ones.

Tip 2: Restock Your Fridge, Freezer and Pantry

Throw away any outdated items and shop for fresh ones, especially healthy grab-and-go snacks you’ll need once the baby arrives (think yogurt, string cheese, cottage cheese, protein bars, dried fruit, nuts, whole grain crackers, etc.)

This is also a great time to stock up on meals for the freezer (soups, pasta dishes, or any meal that freezes well.) If cooking isn’t your thing, ask friends and relatives to contribute!

Tip 3: Clean, clean, clean!

Nesting typically means you will want to clean everything in sight! And honestly, there’s nothing more satisfying than knowing your baby is coming home to a sparkling clean home.

Wipe down windowsills, blinds, and baseboards
Vacuum behind the sofa and under cushions
Dust picture frames
Organize: wash, fold, and sort your baby’s clothes. Put away all those wonderful shower gifts, organize the spices or canned goods in your pantry. If you have the urge to rearrange or reorder, our advice is, go for it!

Tip 4: Outfit Your Baby and Yourself

Be sure you have plenty of the essentials, especially onesies and sleepers. You’ll also want to have plenty of burp cloths (cloth diapers work great!), tiny socks and swaddling blankets.
If you’re planning to breastfeed, be prepared with nursing bras, pads and easy-to-open shirts. You’ll also want to stock up on soft, breathable, oversized underwear that you won’t mind discarding about 6 weeks after the baby is born.

Tip 5: Pack for the Hospital

If you’re nesting, you’re probably getting close to your due date, too! This is the perfect time to pack your hospital bag or stock your baby’s diaper bag. Check out www.pampers.com for both a hospital bag checklist and diaper bag checklist.

Resources:

https://www.pampers.com

https://www.whattoexpect.com

Safe Haven Laws

Mon, 10 Oct 2022 22:19:59 GMT

Safe Haven Laws. Sanctuary. A place of refuge or safety. A safe haven. In his famous novel, The Hunchback of Notre-Dame, Victor Hugo’s heroic protagonist, Quasimodo, attempts to save a woman named Esmeralda from being put to death in 15th century Paris. He takes her to the towering heights of the Notre-Dame cathedral where he cries out in a, “thundering voice…Sanctuary! Sanctuary! Sanctuary!” In medieval Europe, fugitives could claim sanctuary in a church to avoid imprisonment or even the death penalty. Although the outcome was often permanent exile, or banishment, fleeing the country was a preferred fate to facing persecution for a crime committed. Sanctuary was provided in exchange for surrender.

In modern times, we see the evidence of “sanctuary” in the use of safe haven laws . Safe haven laws were first enacted in Texas in 1999 in response to an increased number of infant abandonment and infanticide (the killing of a child within the first year of birth) . In the United States, these statutes decriminalize the leaving of unharmed infants with statutorily designated private persons so that the child becomes a ward of the state . In most cases, when an infant is taken to a safe haven, the parent or guardian is giving up their parental rights, the child becomes a ward of the state, and will be placed with adoptive parents after a certain period, varying by state. By voluntarily surrendering their child to a safe haven, persons are then exempt from prosecution by the law.

In an attempt to provide parents with an alternative to abuse and abandonment, safe haven drop off sites allow parents or guardians to release the infant to the state anonymously and without any criminal charges, if the infant is unharmed. “Safe haven laws are seen as harm reduction measures for parents in the most desperate of circumstances” ( The 19th ). Safe haven drop-off sites include hospitals, police stations, and 24/7 emergency medical centers, such as fire stations and fire squads. The National Safe Haven Alliance website provides information on safe haven laws for each state in the U.S.

In Virginia and West Virginia , infants must be 30 days old or younger at the time of delivery to a safe haven site. In Maryland , infants must be 10 days old or younger. Designated safe haven providers in Virginia include any on-duty staff members at a 24-hr medical facility/hospital, or to a Fire/EMS Provider. West Virginia safe haven providers include any on-duty staff members at a hospital or healthcare clinic. Providers in Maryland include any on-duty staff member at a hospital or a law enforcement officer. In all three states, the infant must be directly handed to a safe haven provider. To protect anonymity, safe haven baby boxes were designed to leave infants in a safe and discreet manner, with drop off locations provided throughout the United States.

In life, we encounter many unexpected circumstances. If you or someone you know is facing an unexpected pregnancy and are unsure of what to do next, we are here to help. No judgment. No condemnation. We care about your safety and the decisions that greatly affect women’s health: physically, mentally, and spiritually. Please call us today for a free and confidential appointment.

National Safe Haven Crisis Line 1-866-99BABY1 Business Phone: 1-888-742-2133

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving women, men, and families facing unexpected pregnancies. To learn more about our free, confidential services, visit abbacare.org .

Tips for Teen Moms (or new moms of any age!)

Sun, 04 Sep 2022 22:14:34 GMT

Tips for Teen Moms. Congratulations! You’re having a baby! And, while you may be feeling overwhelmed with everything that comes along with being a new mom, rest assured that with a little planning and support, motherhood will be a joy!

For starters, you’ve made the beautiful decision to become a mother, which is always a reason to celebrate. Of course, every new mom’s journey is different (including teen moms), so here are a few general tips to help make the transition to motherhood as easy and stress-free as possible.

Tip 1: Surround yourself with support

Whether it’s the father of your baby, a best friend, a group of friends, parents or grandparents, be sure to reach out to those people in your life who love and care about you. Look especially for people who are already moms – your own mom, grandmother, sister, friend or a local mom’s group – these are the women who’ve been there, and they can give you lots of practical advice!

Tip 2: Call your local pregnancy resource center (PRC):

That’s right, PRCs absolutely love teen moms! And, they have loads and loads of resources to help get you started on the right track. In addition to pregnancy tests and ultrasounds, most PRCs offer parenting classes and childbirth classes. Many also offer support for the father of your baby, too! And of course, PRCs love to help by providing all kinds of material assistance, including diapers, wipes, car seats, pack n’ plays, clothing, toys, blankets, etc. PRCs specialize in connecting you with other resources in your community, such as WIC, Healthy Families, Infant & Toddlers, career help, OB referrals, church referrals, the list goes on. (Plus, everything is free!) Bottom line, you are definitely not alone!

Tip 3: Find a great OB:

Finding the right OB is essential to your well-being and peace of mind. Ask your local PRC for recommendations. You can also ask friends and relatives who have recently been pregnant.

Tip 4: Check out the Internet (but don’t get carried away!)

You’re probably way ahead of us on this one, but in case you haven’t discovered them yet, here are a few apps and websites to explore:

https://www.lucieslist.com/straight-talk

https://www.babywise.life

Instagram:

@takingcarababies

App:

Pregnancy+

That said, it’s important not to spend every waking moment reading anything and everything! A lot of what you read may be just plain wrong! Remember, women have been having babies since the beginning of time (literally!).

Tip 5: Relax and savor every moment!

Bringing new life into the world is one of the most incredible experiences a woman can have. So take the time to enjoy this time of bonding with your little one as he or she grows and changes. Journaling, taking photos of your changing waistline, and arranging (and rearranging!) the nursery are all great ways to make the most of this very precious and unique time.

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving women and families in the Winchester, VA and Martinsburg, WV areas. To learn more about our free, confidential services, visit abbacare.org .

Setting Boundaries for Healthy Relationships

Sun, 07 Aug 2022 22:10:12 GMT

Setting Boundaries for Healthy Relationships. Personal boundaries are limits and rules we set for ourselves. Why? Because for a relationship to be healthy, both parties need to feel safe. It’s important to be able to say “no”, for instance, respectfully, but without ambiguity. That means knowing ahead of time where you draw the line. This doesn’t mean you can’t compromise. In fact, once you set boundaries, you will be far more comfortable opening yourself up to intimacy and closeness, as well as more difficult conversations that come as part of any healthy relationship.

Personal boundaries may be physical, intellectual, emotional, sexual, and include materials and time.

Healthy physical boundaries include an awareness of what is appropriate, and what is not appropriate in various settings and different types of relationships.

Healthy intellectual boundaries include respect for each other’s ideas and an awareness of appropriate discussions.

Healthy emotional boundaries include limitations on when to share, and when not to share, personal information. Gradually share personal information during the development of a relationship, as opposed to revealing everything on the first date!

Healthy sexual boundaries involve mutual understanding and respect of limitations and desires related to intimacy and sexual activity.

Healthy material boundaries involve setting limits on which personal possessions you will share and with whom.

Healthy time boundaries set aside enough time for each facet of your life to maintain a comfortable balance.

Personal boundaries should always lead to a better, closer relationship. If you set boundaries that are too strict or rigid, you run the risk of shutting down communication and intimacy. Every person’s boundaries are different. Knowing your personal boundaries will allow you to establish your values, beliefs and self-worth entering into any relationship.

One last word of advice, consider the long view. Some days you will give more than you take, and other days you will take more than you give. Be willing to take a longer view of the relationship ( www.therapistaid.com ). And, don’t forget your sense of humor!

Sources:

Real Essentials

The Center for Relationship Education, 2016

www.therapistaid.com

Where You End and I Begin by Anne Katherine

www.loveisnotabuse.com

Ectopic Pregnancy and Elective Abortion

Mon, 18 Jul 2022 22:07:14 GMT

Ectopic Pregnancy and Elective Abortion. Some current buzz topics are abortion and ectopic pregnancy. Are they the same? Are they different? How so? There has been some confusion regarding whether or not ectopic pregnancy treatment is considered an abortion. And, if a woman lives in a state where abortion is restricted, or banned altogether, will this pose a health risk by restricting access to emergent medical care? The treatment provided for an ectopic pregnancy is not in any way limited by abortion laws because they are different.

What is an ectopic pregnancy?

Ectopic pregnancy is a pregnancy in which the fetus develops outside the uterus. Maternal harm, even death, may result if an ectopic pregnancy is not treated right away. These types of pregnancies are not viable, meaning that they are not able to successfully continue. Immediate medical intervention is required to protect the health of the mother. This treatment is not elective, it is required as a life-saving measure for the mother.

How is ectopic pregnancy treated?

Medications such as Methotrexate are given as an injection to prevent the pregnancy from developing further. “Laparoscopic procedures may also be used to remove the ectopic pregnancy” (Mayo Clinic, 2022). Methotrexate may also be used, with another medication, to end an early pregnancy that would otherwise be expected to continue to a full-term live birth. This would be considered an elective abortion procedure, which is not the same as treating an ectopic pregnancy.

Miscarriages and ectopic pregnancies are not the same as elective abortions.

Miscarriages are spontaneous in occurrence; they do not happen on-demand. Most often, there is no clear cause for why a miscarriage happens. Miscarriages and ectopic pregnancies are both treated as non-viable pregnancies. Treatment for ectopic pregnancies or failed miscarriages is not the same as elective abortion.

Will abortion restrictions affect access to ectopic pregnancy treatment?

Obstetricians/gynecologists confirm that the treatment of ectopic pregnancies will not be affected by abortion restrictions or bans, as stated below,

“Although treatment for ectopic pregnancy results in the unfortunate death of the embryo, this is not the intent of the treatment. The intent is to save the life of the mother. The sole intent of an abortion is to end the life of the developing human being. Therefore, legislation restricting induced abortion should not be seen to limit a physician’s ability to treat ectopic pregnancy” (AAPLOG, 2022).

When making any decision, it is important to know the facts. If you or someone you know is facing an unplanned, or unexpectedly difficult, pregnancy and would like to learn more about our services, please contact us here or by calling 540.665.9660 in Winchester or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg.

Adoption Can Be a Beautiful Option

Sun, 05 Jun 2022 22:04:39 GMT

Adoption Can Be a Beautiful Option. When facing an unplanned pregnancy, it’s normal to feel a sense of panic. Many women feel overwhelmed by the idea of being pregnant, let alone becoming a mom. Some women may consider abortion as a quick solution, while others begin to consider what life with a new baby might look like. Women often feel pressure from the father of the baby, friends, family and even co-workers. Everyone seems to have an opinion. Yet the fact of the matter is, once a woman becomes pregnant, she has another life to consider, one that is completely dependent on what she decides.

For some women, becoming a parent simply isn’t feasible. Adoption provides a new beginning for all involved – the birthparents, the baby and the adoptive parents. Yet many people misunderstand adoption. They may believe that adoption is “giving their baby to strangers”, or that it is similar to the foster system. Another common misconception is that they will never see their child again. Yet modern adoption is none of these things and is often the most beautiful and gratifying choice birthparents can make for their child.

So just what is adoption? It is a process in which birthparents make a plan for their baby to be raised by other parents. Permanent legal custody, with all its rights and responsibilities is transferred from the birthparents to the adoptive parents. The birthparents are in complete control of this process, choosing from a list of potential parents who have gone through extensive screening. Birth moms and dads are able to get to know these couples and envision what life for their baby will look like. Often the relationship between birthparents and adoptive parents becomes a strong and lifelong bond.

Birthparents work with the adoption agency/attorney and the adoptive parents to determine details such as how much contact they will have with the baby. This can range from in-person visits and phone calls to annual photos, cards and letters. Other birthparents will choose no contact and simply rest in the fact that they have placed their baby in the hands of a loving mom and dad. In short, birthparents are in the driver’s seat, not only choosing life for their child, but giving him or her the gift of a two parent home with a couple who are prepared and eager to love their new baby.

If you or someone you know would like to find out more about adoption, please contact AbbaCare, and one of our client service advocates will be happy to answer your questions.

The first step is to give us a call. You can contact us here or by calling 540.665.9660 in Winchester or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg. Come for a free, confidential pregnancy appointment and bring any thoughts, questions, and concerns you may have about adoption. We are here to talk.

Here Comes the Sun

Sun, 08 May 2022 22:02:16 GMT

Here Comes the Sun. Summer is just around the corner, and it is high time to consider what to do when the warmer days roll in. Calendar looking a little lack luster? Here are some ideas to jumpstart a summer of fun, self-improvement, and adventure! So, if you are into those things-keep scrolling!

Five Ways to Get Ready for the Summer

1. Increase your water intake . As the days get warmer, your need for hydration increases. If you struggle to drink water, try foods with high-water content. Add thirst-quenching summer snacks to your day, like watermelon, grapes, apples, or salads with fresh vegetables. Flavoring your water can also make it more drinkable. Try these infused water recipes .

2. Make an honest assessment of your summer wardrobe . Look through your shorts, summer dresses, bathing suits, and other warm-weather clothes. Does everything still fit? Has anything gone unworn for several years? Any clothes that are not really your style anymore? Give yourself permission to let them go. You can donate them to your local charity thrift shop. You can see if there is a women’s shelter or a clothing ministry at a local church that needs clothes. You also can join your local Buy Nothing group on Facebook and offer them up to your neighbors. Lastly, you can make a little cash by consigning your clothes with a company like ThredUp .

3. Start an exercise routine . Don’t wait for arbitrary dates like January 1st to improve your health. Late-spring/early summer is actually the most logical time to start a fitness routine. Not only does warm, sunny weather tend to make people feel more energized – but also, there is no need for expensive gym memberships when you can simply get outside and go for a walk. The CDC actually reports that walking is a highly effective way to control your weight and lower your risk for heart disease, diabetes, depression, and some cancers. Adults need at least 150 minutes of exercise a week. So do something good for yourself by committing to a 30 min walk, five days a week.

4. Learn to balance a healthy intake of sunshine . Most Americans do not get enough Vitamin D. This is significant, because low levels of Vitamin D are linked to chronic disease . There is also good evidence that Vitamin D plays an important role in our immune system. Though sun exposure is the easiest way to get Vitamin D, most of us lather ourselves in sunscreen during the summer. While sunscreen certainly is good for preventing sunburns, premature aging, and even cancer — brief periods of sun exposure can help increase your Vitamin D levels. Noon is actually the best time to get in the sun, as the sun is at its highest point and UVB rays are at their most intense. To take the guesswork out of how much sun to get, try an app like dminder to get personalized suggestions of when and how much sun to get.

5. Start planning a summer trip . Even if you are super busy or are on a tight budget, try to plan a little vacation for yourself. Never taking a break and forgoing vacation time has actually shown to damage your health and productivity . It doesn’t have to be expensive or complicated. This could be a day at the beach with some friends or going for a hike somewhere you’ve never been. Start by researching online what’s near you. Type “Beaches near me” into your search engine to find the nearest lake or oceanside beach. If hiking and exploring is more up your alley, the National Park website will show you all the parks in your area and what activities each has to offer. Once you have a spot picked, propose your idea to your friends, family, or whomever you want to travel with, and start working out the details:

Choose your date of arrival and how long you’ll be there. Is this a day trip, a long weekend, or a full-week getaway?
How do you plan to get there? Drive yourself? Carpool? Take a train, bus, or plane?
What will you need to buy for the trip? Outdoor gear, beachwear, sunscreen, snacks?

Set objective goals for yourself this summer and be purposeful in the planning. However, you can always leave room for a little spontaneity!

Here’s hoping this summer is a great one!

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving Winchester Virginia, Martinsburg West Virginia, and the Northern Shenandoah Valley. If you or someone you know is facing an unplanned pregnancy, is considering abortion or other pregnancy options, or is in need of post-abortive care or counseling, please let us know by calling 540.665.9660 (Winchester) or 304.726.6582 (Martinsburg) or sending us a message .

Recovery After Abortion

Sun, 10 Apr 2022 21:57:13 GMT

Recovery After Abortion. Studies show that 1 in 4 women will have had an abortion by age 45. This number also reflects the partners of women who obtain abortions. There is a broad range of emotions that emerge after having an abortion ( FOTF Advocacy Team, 2021 ). Many women and men feel guilt, regret, shame, sorrow, and anger after an abortion experience, regardless of the reason they pursued one in the past.

For women and men who suffer from a past abortion, the process of healing is essential to embracing a new beginning full of hope and possibility. Unresolved emotional trauma may cause many men and women to head down a path of further turmoil and distress. Following a terminated pregnancy, many women develop depression, anxiety, and substance abuse problems ( Sullins, 2019 ). Talking about one’s abortion experience in a safe, non-judgmental environment can allow time to reflect and space for healing and growth.

Starting the conversation can be frightening, but women are available to sit down with other women, and men, to help them navigate the path to healing. These women have lived through their own abortion stories and have received a newfound confidence to empower others to live a life outside of the oppressing shadows of abortion and enter into the light of a bright present and future.

AbbaCare offers a free and confidential program, PACE, that is available for women and men who are seeking healing after an abortion. Participants are given an opportunity to explore and process through the emotions they are struggling with from a past abortion experience.

Reach out to chriswithpace@gmail.com for information on PACE or contact us at 540-665-9660 . To learn more about our free, confidential services, visit abbacare.org .

Reading to Your Baby

Sun, 13 Mar 2022 21:54:22 GMT

Reading to Your Baby is The Key to Boosting Brain Power

So, you’re going to have a baby! Congratulations! Now you’re thinking about all the ways to give your baby the best start: the right crib, breast vs. bottle, car seats, strollers, bouncy seats, swings, sleep routines – the list is practically endless! But did you know one of the most important aspects of your baby’s early development is often the most overlooked?

The key to boosting your baby’s brain power is easy. Read! Simple and affordable, reading to your baby leads to a lifetime of benefits. And you can’t start too soon. When your baby is born, he or she already knows and loves your voice. So, it’s the perfect time to introduce simple books with cadence, rhythm and sounds which are the building blocks of language.

Why is reading so important? By age 3, 85% of your baby’s brain is developed. So just like your baby’s growing body, you want to feed their growing brain with words and stories that will help put them on the road to success. In fact, the U.S. Department of Education reports that the more children read or are read to at home, the higher their reading scores. What’s more, there’s a profound impact on emotional health, maturity, the ability to sit still, greater understanding of people and the world, and just a general love of learning.

How do I get started? Board books and soft books are best for babies. Let your baby chew, hold and even try turning the pages. Look for bright, simple colorful illustrations and point to pictures as you say words, such as “that’s a big yellow dog.” Look for simple rhymes and books with songs or rhythm. Use silly voices and sound effects, and let your baby watch the way your face changes to show different emotions, like happy or sad. Above all snuggle, snuggle, snuggle! Reading provides the perfect opportunity for emotional bonding.

Establish a routine . Reading to your baby at bedtime signals it’s time to rest and helps your little one settle down. But never limit reading time! Take a book with you wherever you go, and your child will learn to read a book instead of stare at a screen.

Speaking of screens …keep your baby away from screens as long as possible! That means phones, tablets, computers, and even the TV should be limited or eliminated altogether. Your baby has a lifetime of screens ahead. So, give your baby a healthy head start. Baby’s brains develop best when books are abundant!

Adverse Fetal Diagnosis: Peer Mentors Needed

Sun, 13 Feb 2022 21:50:42 GMT

When Heidi and Casey heard the news that their unborn child had a hole in his skull and a myriad of other possible medical complications, they immediately felt shocked and overwhelmed. The medical terms and treatment options were coming at them quickly. “I was just sitting there trying to figure out what they even said,” Heidi remembers. “My husband and I were just dumbfounded…we left the office feeling like, ‘what just happened?’.” This is where peer mentors can be helpful.

As their journey continued, Heidi and Casey found that facing a difficult fetal diagnosis could be very isolating and scary. Among the challenges were things like finding the right doctors for Heidi and the baby, as well as researching what their options were for the future. While this young couple had support from their family and friends, they knew they needed to connect with others who had gone through similar circumstances.

Fortunately, Heidi was able to connect to two other women in her church whose children were given a similar diagnosis, and the support of these friends would prove invaluable to her. But the experience left Heidi wondering what happens for families who don’t have that support. What about people who don’t happen to know anyone who’s been through this? How could they navigate this alone?

And that’s why Heidi was elated when she connected with AbbaCare to become a Peer Mentor in the Ezrah program. As a Peer Mentor, Heidi has the opportunity to walk alongside other families facing a similar situation – to help them process the information being given, to provide support as they plan the steps ahead, and just to be a listening ear.

Regardless of the difficulties a family may be facing, or even whether the child is expected to survive past birth, Heidi welcomes the opportunity to be a support and an encouragement to other families. She notes that the Peer Mentoring component of Ezrah exists “to be there for you when the trials come…to help you process each new diagnosis or doctor’s appointment or new medical equipment you have to figure out. To have people alongside you, that network…I think it’s so important.”

If you have faced an uncertain future with your unborn child and would like to come alongside families in a similar situation, click here to learn more about the Ezrah program and how you can become a Peer Mentor. We are located in the Winchester, VA and Martinsburg, WV area.

As Heidi says, “We can empower families with hope that there is a clear road ahead.”

Help for Families Facing a Challenging Fetal Diagnosis

Sun, 09 Jan 2022 21:46:26 GMT

The words you never want to hear during your baby’s ultrasound: “It looks like there may be something wrong…” and you’re now facing a challenging fetal diagnosis.

Joy and excitement can quickly turn to sadness, fear, and uncertainty when facing the possibility of an adverse or challenging fetal diagnosis. Families are often immediately flooded with medical information, terms and phrases they’ve never heard, and even faced with the gut-wrenching decision of whether to continue the pregnancy.

Families in this situation need information to make an informed and empowered choice. The Ezrah program is another another way that AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center in Winchester, VA and Martinsburg, WV can minister to people in difficult circumstances, and is a beautiful new iteration of our life-affirming mission and vision to “Equip with Truth and Empower with Hope.”

For the name of the program, we have chosen “Ezrah” which is the Hebrew word meaning: help, support, assistance, aid, either human or divine. It is often used in the sense of a helper or assistant, one who assists and serves another with what is needed.

The Ezrah program serves families facing a challenging fetal diagnosis through FOUR main components:

Care – holistic, spiritual, emotional and compassionate care for families who have received an adverse fetal diagnosis. Time and space to process that they’ve been told. Validation of their feelings, and an assurance that they are not alone.
Information & Resources – reliable, accurate information about all of their options, self-advocacy (what questions to ask, etc.), and information/sources to consult for the child’s diagnoses. Another possible component we may offer is a non-medical ultrasound.
Referrals – referrals to OB providers, specialists, etc. for 2nd opinion or care specific to their needs, as well as referrals to adoptions agencies, perinatal hospice, parent and infant education programs, etc.
Peer Mentoring – connecting clients to pre-screened and pre-trained families who have walked a similar road and can provide ongoing support and encouragement.

We’d love to hear from you…

…if you have been given news of a difficult fetal diagnosis (or know someone who is experiencing this). You are not alone.

…if you have walked down this road and would like to help other families by becoming a peer mentor.

…if you are a medical provider or other human services professional who sees patients or families facing adverse fetal diagnosis and would like to provide those folks with our information.

…if you would like to learn more about the Ezrah program and how your church, nonprofit, or parenting group can partner with us to help these families in meaningful ways.

Please email info@abbacare.org or contact us to learn more about Ezrah.

5 Fun Family Holiday Traditions

Sun, 05 Dec 2021 21:43:38 GMT

One of the things that often comes to mind at holiday time, as well as in conversations with friends, is “family holiday traditions.” Things like: When and how to decorate the Christmas tree, special foods to prepare, and types of gifts to give – are all often handed down from generation to generation.

But some families may not have those traditions, and it can be easy to feel left out or let down at the holidays. Particularly if you come from a broken family, or one where the holidays were actually a stressful time, the idea of holiday traditions may be a foreign or even uncomfortable thought.

Or maybe you have some wonderful family holiday memories but want to mix in some new ideas and traditions for a fresh holiday feel! Whether you celebrate Christmas, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, or your own version of family time in the month of December, here are 5 Fun Holiday Traditions to Start with Your Family :

Draw Names and Give Homemade Gifts . Each member of the family (even kids!) puts their name in a “hat” (maybe a Santa hat or even a stocking!) and then each one draws a name – make sure you didn’t draw your own! Then each family member creates some type of homemade gift for the person whose name they drew. Younger children can enlist the help of another family member to give them a hand with their creation. Need ideas of things to make? Visit a local crafting store like Hobby Lobby or Michael’s – they have kits and other craft ideas for all ages. This is a great way to put a lot of love and thought into a gift without spending a lot of money.
Gingerbread-House-Making Contest . The tradition of building houses out of gingerbread dates back to Germany in the 1600’s, and may have actually been sparked by the fairy tale of Hansel & Gretel rather than Christmas, according to an interesting article from PBS.org . Kids, adults, and even hard-to-entertain teenagers often enjoy building and decorating gingerbread houses in their own creative ways. Even if they fall apart and look terrible, it can make for a lot of laughter! Here’s an easy gingerbread recipe HERE , or you can even find ready-to-build kits at places like WalMart, Michael’s, and grocery stores.
Holiday Decorating Party…And All You Need is Paper . When it comes to decorating your home for the holidays, there’s a fun and easy way to get everyone involved and keep the expenses to a minimum. All you’ll need is lots of paper – cheap, white copy paper will do, but you can also mix in colored construction paper or craft paper. Then plan a day for your decorating party! Put some holiday music on, maybe mix in some hot cocoa and cookies, and let the decorating begin. The two main staples of your decorating? Paper snowflakes and paper “link” chains ! Kids can typically handle small safety scissors well enough to make snowflakes by about age 4 (or even 2-3 with help and close supervision). They’ll love to hang the snowflakes from the ceiling, and tape them to walls and windows. Paper chains are easy to make ( see a video here ) and you can make it more creative by coloring the paper strips with crayons or markers before linking them together. Turn it into a game by dividing into teams to see who can make the longest or most creative chain. Still have more paper left over? Make homemade holiday cards or holiday pictures to hang around the house.
Visit a nursing home, soup kitchen, or elderly neighbor . Be sure to check for any COVID restrictions first, but if you have the green light, pay a visit to folks in need. This shows your kids that the holidays are about loving others, not just loving the gifts and yummy goodies we get. Take homemade gifts or cards to the folks you are visiting, sing Christmas carols or other uplifting songs, or just sit and chat for a while. The people you meet will be blessed and encouraged, and your family will enjoy knowing they have brightened someone else’s day.
Visit a church, synagogue or other place of worship . Maybe you grew up in a faith-based community, but you’ve gotten away from it in recent years. Perhaps you had a negative experience in a church, and you haven’t wanted to relive that. The holidays can be a wonderful time to give it another chance. In the age of the internet, you can learn a lot about churches and other places of worship before visiting by going to their websites. Look at the pictures, read what they have to say about themselves, use their “contact us” forms to ask questions. Creating a faith tradition for your children can be a wonderfully positive influence in their lives, helping them to make good choices as they grow. If you are local to our area and would like to see our list of suggested churches to check out in the Winchester, VA or Martinsburg, WV area, shoot us an email here .

Regardless of how you and your family choose to celebrate the holidays, all of us here at AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center would like to wish you a joyous and wonderful season, and many amazing new adventures in the new year!

When to Start Prenatal Care

Sun, 07 Nov 2021 21:38:46 GMT

When to Start Prenatal Care. Whether a pregnancy is planned or unexpected, starting prenatal care should be at the top of every expecting mother’s to-do list. The first prenatal visit should occur between the first 6-8 weeks of pregnancy. According to the NIH (2017), “pre-pregnancy and prenatal care can help prevent complications and inform women about important steps they can take to protect their infant and ensure a healthy pregnancy.”

Women who are actively trying to become pregnant should have a discussion with their doctor. Many lifestyle changes can be started before pregnancy such as healthy eating habits and exercise routines. A woman may begin taking a daily prenatal vitamin before becoming pregnant. One of the most important supplements to take during pregnancy is folic acid. Taking 400mcg of folic acid daily reduces the risk for neural tube defects (NIH, 2017). All medications (prescriptive and over-the-counter) should be approved by a pharmacist or physician before they are taken to ensure safety and efficacy of use during pregnancy.

Knowing your insurance status is another top priority. Women who are uninsured and who may qualify for government assistance should submit a Medicaid application as soon as they think they might be pregnant. (Not sure how to start this process? AbbaCare can help. See more information below). Some insurance plans are not accepted by all OB/GYN practices. If a woman has a healthcare facility in mind that she would like to use, she should call that office to find out which insurance plans they accept. This will save time and effort in not having to switch insurance carriers or medical providers down the road.

Once prenatal care has begun, women can begin to think through other needs she may have during her pregnancy. There are many resources in most communities available to assist pregnant women. (For folks in the Winchester, VA area, here’s a blogpost listing many of them.) These organizations provide various services, including free or low-cost material items and assistance with other needs such as housing and job advancement.

AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center provides free pregnancy testing, ultrasounds, prenatal vitamins, and pregnancy education, all 100% FREE of cost. We can also help you start the process of applying for Medicaid, and help you receive early pregnancy care during the time that you are waiting for your Medicaid to kick in. Call 540.665.9660 in Winchester, VA or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg, WV to learn more.

Source: National Institute of Child Health and Human Development. (2017). What is prenatal care and why is it important? US Department of Health and Human Services, National Institutes of Health.

Homeless & Pregnant: Finding Emergency or Transitional Housing

Sun, 10 Oct 2021 21:34:14 GMT

Homeless & Pregnant. Katie was a young woman who worked hard in school and work, attended church regularly, and had big plans for her life. She did not plan on becoming pregnant. The news shocked her family, who insisted that she leave their home immediately.

What could Katie do? What would you do if you were faced with a crisis situation in your life that brought you to homelessness?

First of all it’s important to understand the difference between “emergency” or “crisis” housing, and “transitional housing.” Emergency housing , sometimes called crisis housing, includes shelters and other resources for those who find themselves in need of immediate, temporary assistance until a more permanent solution can be found. These organizations often supply residents with basic needs like food, shelter, and emotional support. Once the basic needs are met, then residents can start looking for work and for better housing opportunities.

Transitional housing is a great next step after emergency or crisis housing. Transitional housing often helps people who are ready to make changes in their lives to become self-sufficient. Mentoring and accountability help the residents in transitional housing to make the leap into a self-sufficient and responsible life, while maintaining the emotional support and friendship needed to flourish. Many transitional housing facilities accept or even focus on women in difficult pregnancy situations, so it’s important to learn what’s available in your community.

In Katie’s case, she contacted a friend who provided emergency housing for her, and then Katie contacted the Valley LIGHT Foundation in her hometown of Winchester to become a guest in Valley LIGHT’s women’s transitional home. Katie and her unborn child are safe and cared for, and well on their way to a self-sufficient life.

If you find yourself facing homelessness, or are in danger of losing your current housing accommodations due to an unplanned pregnancy or other life events, there is help available . Please see the list below for agencies in AbbaCare’s service areas of Winchester, VA and Martinsburg, WV as well as national resources to find help in other areas.

Emergency/Crisis Housing in Winchester, VA:

The Laurel Center (for domestic/sexual violence)

The Laurel Center

540-667-6466

Winchester Rescue Mission

Home | WinRescue

540-667-5379

WATTS (Winchester Area Temporary Thermal Shelter – open Nov 6 – March 26)

WATTS | Winchester Area Temporary Thermal Shelter (watts-homelessshelter.org)

540-327-5431

Transitional Housing in Winchester, VA:

New Eve Maternity Home (for pregnant women)

New Eve Maternity Home: Winchester, VA Maternity Home

540-450-0775

Valley LIGHT Foundation Home for Women

Valley-LIGHT Foundation

703-727-4234

For assistance in permanent housing in Winchester, VA:

Faith Works

Home (faithworksinc.org)

540-313-7682

Centralized Housing Intake

Home – Western Virginia Continuum of Care VA-513 (continuumofcare513.com)

540-271-1701

Emergency/Crisis Housing in Martinsburg, WV:

Martinsburg Union Rescue Mission

Martinsburg Union Rescue Mission

608 W. King St, Martinsburg, WV – 25401

304-263-6901

Transitional Housing in Martinsburg, WV:

Bethany House – women and children

Bethany House (communitynetworksinc.org)

304-263-3510

For Housing Assistance Nationwide:

Salvation Army

The Salvation Army USA

City Gate Network – Gospel Rescue Missions

Citygate Network – Home

What’s the Deal with Abortion Pill Reversal?

Sun, 19 Sep 2021 21:26:04 GMT

Abortion Pill Reversal. “I took the abortion pill,” said a tearful voice over the phone. “And now I wish I hadn’t. What do I do?” Calls like this one are not uncommon, but often women having second thoughts about taking the abortion pill don’t realize that it may not be too late to change their mind.

Medical abortion, often called, “The Abortion Pill Method,” involves the use of two different medications: mifepristone (RU-486, Mifeprex) and misoprostol. Abortion pill reversal is possible using an effective progesterone-based treatment. It is important to note that the reversal treatment is only effective if taken after the first abortion medication; it is not effective once the second medication has been taken.

Abortion pill reversal is a highly time-sensitive process. The American Pregnancy Association (2021) states the protocol should be started, “within 24 hours of taking mifepristone.” Another source, Abortion Pill Rescue Network, confirmed that several successful abortion pill reversals have occurred when treatment was started, “within 72 hours of taking the first abortion medication.” The sooner the reversal process is initiated, increases the success rates of sustaining pregnancy through the delivery of progesterone.

Several studies have found positive results with the use of progesterone to counteract the effects of the first abortion medication, mifepristone. A study by George Delgado, et al. (2018) revealed that two different progesterone administrations resulted in effective (abortion pill) reversal rates of 64-68%. Women who have taken the first abortion medication, who then desire to maintain their pregnancy, should be directed to an abortion pill reversal provider in their area. Helplines such as Abortion Pill Reversal are available 24/7 to connect women to the provider in their closest proximity.

If you have taken the abortion pill within the last 72 hours, please contact the Abortion Pill Reversal hotline here for more information on what your options may be. If you are struggling with a past abortion decision, help and healing are still available. AbbaCare’s Past Abortion Care and Encouragement program (PACE) is here for you in a safe, non-judgmental environment. All services are free and confidential.

If you are considering a medical abortion (the abortion pill) but want to be fully empowered to make the best decision you can, contact AbbaCare for a free pregnancy consultation in Winchester, VA or Martinsburg, WV.

(Not in our area? Find a pregnancy center near you here .)

Who Will Take Care of My Kids if I Die?

Sun, 12 Sep 2021 21:22:52 GMT

Who Will Take Care of My Kids if I Die?

Guest Blogpost By: Anna Wishart, Marketing Coordinator, Law Office of Joshua E. Hummer, PLC

Do you know who will take care of your kids if you die without a will?

State governments have foster care systems ready if you children are left without a legal Guardian. It’s a necessary system, but if you’re like most people, you won’t want your children in state custody instead of with people who love them.

Unlikely, But Possible

It might seem unlikely that your children would lose both parents, but it can and does happen.

More than 400,000 kids per year are placed in foster care nationwide. Many have been abused, abandoned, or neglected, but some are there because their parents never made a plan for their care in the event of the parents’ death.

If there are no legal instructions about who should care for children and their parents die, Child Protective Services take over. If this happened to your kids, someone in your family would have to go to court and ask to become their Guardian.

If no one in your family wants to do this, or if the courts decide your family members are not qualified, your kids can be put into the foster care system, where they may stay until age 21.

Make a Plan for Your Children by Creating a Will

The best way you as a parent can protect your children’s future is to create a will. With a will, you can:

Choose people to care for your kids if there is an emergency or you die. Without it, the police are required to contact Child Protective Services.
Give specific instruction to these people about how to care for your children.
Choose people to care for your children long-term. This is the person or people we call your children’s legal Guardian. If you don’t plan ahead for this, each of your family members has a chance at getting custody of your children, and the state makes the final decisions about who the children are given to.

More Resources for Protecting Your Children with Estate Planning

Don’t keep wondering “who will take care of my kids if I die?” Think about who you would want to have custody of your children if you passed away, and then use your will to set them up as legal Guardians for your kids. The simple act of creating a will can protect your children for life.

Joshua E. Hummer, Esq . is a licensed attorney who has been admitted in both Virginia and West Virginia. He is a graduate of the University of Virginia and has been practicing law for over 15 years. While experienced in many parts of the law, Josh specializes in estate planning, estate administration, and elder planning. When he isn’t working with clients, Josh loves spending time with his lovely wife, Jill, and their four vibrant children.

A Note from AbbaCare : To make your will legally sound, you’ll want to have it drawn up by an attorney. Do your research and don’t be afraid to call around to law firms in your area to ask about affordable pricing for wills, as some attorneys have sliding fee scales or may offer discounts for this service.

Juggling “All the Things” for Back-to-School

Sun, 22 Aug 2021 21:19:51 GMT

Back-to-School. How is it that summer just seems to fly by, and then before we know it, the fall is upon us with all the back-to-school rush? When you have multiple kids at home and other commitments that pick up again in full-force for the fall, this time of year can get super crazy super quickly!

Here are 4 Quick Tips to juggling “all the things” for back-to-school:

Plan Ahead . As the first day of school gets closer and closer, we have the tendency to procrastinate on getting prepared. We want to squeeze all we can out of those last few weeks of summer and for good reason! But it’s important not to wait until the last minute to start gathering school supplies, making plans for changes in child care, etc. It’s a great idea to pick a day at least 2 weeks before school starts and devote it to “School Readiness.” Not only will you feel less rushed as the day approaches, but you’ll avoid the crowds and diminished store shelves that will face you if you wait until the night before school starts!
Organization is King . Even if you are not an organized person in other aspects of your life, it can be a huge stress-reliever for the next 10 months if you can start out the school year being organized. One easy way to do this is to create a “space” for paperwork and information related to each child. For some schools and day cares, they may send most things to you digitally in this day and age, so maybe this is just one file folder on your computer’s desktop for each child. Then as you get emails, digital documents, and other information from the school, you can slide it all right into that folder for easy reference. If most of what you receive is on paper, then consider using an accordion folder or a storage bin or tray for each child. Also as you receive any information or paperwork that has important dates on it, get those onto a calendar of some kind right away, and/or highlight dates so that you can quickly look back to see when deadlines or events are coming up.
Keep Weekends Open if Possible . As your fall calendar starts to fill up during the week with school events as well as just the start of the new school year routine, guard your weekends like they are worth more than gold! Remember that most likely both you AND your kids will be very tired at the end of the first couple of school weeks, so overscheduling a lot of activities (even fun ones) on the weekends will likely not leave your family time to rest and adapt to the increased demands of a new school year.
Talk, Talk, Talk with Your Kiddos . With the hustle and bustle of settling into the new routine, making sure lunches are packed, supplies are bought, and bus schedules are met, it’s easy to miss how our little ones are handling everything. Discipline yourself to take time – even if it’s just a few minutes – each day in the week or so before school starts as well as during the first few weeks, to sit down with each child and ask how they are feeling about the start of a new school year.

What is the Plan C Pill?

Sun, 08 Aug 2021 21:17:11 GMT

When women are considering abortion as one possible option for an unexpected or unexpectedly difficult pregnancy, there are so many terms floating around that it becomes difficult to know what those terms mean. One of those terms is the “Plan C” Pill. So just what IS the Plan C Pill?

Since receiving FDA approval in 2000, there has been a surge in abortion medication access in the United States. This increase is due in part to the release of an on-demand abortion pill delivery system, recently termed “Plan C.” In place of in-person office or clinic visits, abortion medications are sent through a mail delivery system or for pharmacy pick-up after the woman receives a telehealth consultation from the abortion pill provider.

The convenience of being prescribed Plan C without seeing a physician or having an ultrasound may sound tempting, but there are several reasons why it is in a woman’s best interest to take these steps first.

Plan C includes the use of the abortion medications, mifepristone and misoprostol, and it is important that a woman is seen by her physician to discuss the use and effects of these medications. Further, when considering a chemical abortion, a woman needs to have prior confirmation that her pregnancy is in the uterus (not ectopic), the fetus has a viable heartbeat, and the estimated gestational age (EGA) of her pregnancy. It is highly important to confirm the EGA because there is a limited time frame in which the Plan C abortion pill method may be used during the first trimester of pregnancy.

Often, a woman is unsure of the date of her last menstrual period. An ultrasound provides accurate dating information based on obtained measurements, as well as determining the viability and location (uterine vs. ectopic) of the pregnancy. Considering the safety and well-being of the woman, having an ultrasound prior to any abortion procedure (medical or surgical) ensures preexisting health conditions do not contraindicate having an abortion.

Lastly, complications can occur if a woman has an active sexually transmitted infection (STI) which remains untreated. A woman (and her partner) should be encouraged to have STI testing done to confirm if there is an active infection and to seek treatment promptly, if positive for an STI.

Call 540.665.9660 in Winchester, VA or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg, WV or click here to email us. Not in our area? Click here to find a free pregnancy center near you.

Unplanned Pregnancy Takes a Village….and We’ve Got One.

Sun, 11 Jul 2021 21:13:31 GMT

Unplanned Pregnancy. Jasmine just found out she’s pregnant. Maybe somewhere in the back of her mind, she knew this might happen. But not now. Not with…everything else going on….

She has a toddler at home already. He is her whole world. How can she even think about another baby?
She’s barely making enough money to make ends meet. Think of all those expenses: diapers, clothes, child care.
She really should get a better job. If only she had access to job training and opportunities.
Things with the baby’s father aren’t the best right now. Or ever.
Then there’s always “drama” with her family…and just, well…it’s overwhelming.

How can a pregnancy center help with all of this? Aren’t they just concerned about the baby?

If you’re facing an unexpected pregnancy, or maybe just one that is unexpectedly difficult, it can feel insurmountable….it’s all just “too much.”

AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center, and other pregnancy centers like us across the country, are blessed to come alongside you to help….not just with the pregnancy, but to connect you with people who can help with ALL the other stuff that’s weighing on your mind.

Finances. Job searches. Medicaid. Medical and Dental Care. Help with domestic violence. Help with addiction. Legal assistance. Housing. Mental Health.

How can we do all that? Well, the simple answer is….we’ve got a village. Pregnancy Centers like AbbaCare are well connected to lots of other agencies and organizations in the community to help meet the many different needs or concerns you may have. Consider just a few of the folks we partner with in the Winchester, VA area:

Crisis/Emergency Services:

Northwestern Community Services

The Laurel Center

Concern Hotline

Educational/Job Training:

Virginia Career Works

NW Works

Financial Assistance

CCAP

Salvation Army

Food

CCAP

Highland Food Pantr y

Legal Assistance

Blue Ridge Legal Service

Housing

Winchester Rescue Mission

The Laurel Center

New Eve Home

Medical/Dental

Sinclair Health Clinic

And many others! The list goes on and on, and we have a similar list of agencies in the Martinsburg, West Virginia area as well.

The first step is to give us a call. You can contact us here or by calling 540.665.9660 in Winchester or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg . Come for a free, confidential pregnancy appointment. We can talk through all of your pregnancy options, and then connect you with the community assistance agencies you need to help you live your best life!

Not in our area? Click HERE to find a pregnancy center near you – they will very likely have similar community partners in your area.

Abortion Pill by Mail

Sun, 13 Jun 2021 21:03:39 GMT

We are living in a digital age where practically anything can be ordered and delivered to your doorstep. Recently, in the US, abortion-on-demand has become available through a mail-order abortion process. The abortion pill by mail can be fast, convenient, and discreet…but is it safe?

Abortions by mail were approved by the FDA during the COVID-19 public health emergency, by allowing women direct access to mifepristone, an abortion medication, through the waiving of the in-person dispensing requirement (AAPLOG, 2021). Mifepristone (Mifiprex) is a medical abortion pill that causes the termination of a pregnancy up to 10 weeks gestational age (time from last menstrual period). This medication may only be dispensed by, “specially certified doctors or other medical providers” in clinics or hospitals (The New York Times, 2021). Misoprostol is another medication that is prescribed to be taken 24-48 hours after Mifeprex. Misoprostol causes the uterus to contract and expel the pregnancy.

Pregnancy dating, through medical examination, has long been standard practice to determine if a woman is able to receive abortion medications. However, a rise in telemedicine consultations provides access to abortion medication without a physical assessment, despite the risks that abortion by mail may pose. For instance, Mifepristone can potentially cause hemorrhage, tissue retention, and infection. An in-person consultation with a medical professional prior to taking a mail-order abortion pill is highly important for the following reasons:

To accurately determine the risks for the individual patient
To have an ultrasound to confirm exactly how far along a woman is in her pregnancy (many women are farther along than they think), to determine if the pregnancy is viable (as opposed to a miscarriage), and to rule out an ectopic pregnancy (outside the uterus). A telemedicine abortion will not terminate an ectopic pregnancy, which can be life-threatening.
To make a plan for any complications that might arise from the abortion pill (some clinics allow women to return in person under certain circumstances, others may direct patients to the nearest emergency room)
To make sure that the clinic prescribing the medication for an abortion is a legitimate clinic with licensed healthcare professionals and that the abortion medications being given are FDA approved
To determine the woman’s blood type . If she is Rh negative, it is vital that she receives Rhogam with every pregnancy to reduce the chance of developing antibodies that could harm a future pregnancy.

Making an informed decision requires that the woman be made aware of all safety risks involved with abortion medication use, and an in-person consultation equips her with the knowledge she needs about what is going on in her body.

The nursing staff at AbbaCare is available to provide information on potential side effects and risks for complications of FDA abortion pill medications, as well as assessing essential medical information through lab-quality pregnancy testing and ultrasound. A holistic approach to care is implemented for the overall physical and mental health of the client; physical and emotional effects of abortion are discussed and the client is empowered to make her pregnancy decision based on accurate, personalized information that is provided in a non-judgmental manner.

Protecting your health is important to us. Call 540.665.9660 in Winchester, VA or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg, WV to schedule your free, confidential appointment to learn more about abortion-by-mail and whether it is a viable option for you.

(Not in our area? Click here to find a pregnancy resource center near you.)

Six Steps to SPRING into Shape

Sun, 09 May 2021 20:56:33 GMT

Spring is upon us! As warm weather has us shedding our layers, here are six steps to SPRING into shape this spring.

Find your motivation . Any goal is easier to reach if you know why you are doing it. According to a recent article from Today.com, “Getting in shape does not always mean losing weight. Perhaps you just want to feel better about yourself, have more energy and know that you’re doing something good for your body. If you identify why you want to get fit, it will help you power through.”
Eat fresh. No, this isn’t an ad for Subway . Eating fresh fruits and vegetables as well as healthy whole grains is a good idea any time of year, but in the spring it’s an especially great time to pick up healthy eating habits with the plentiful variety of fresh produce available in grocery stores. And because most fruits and veggies are “in season,” they tend to be a lot cheaper in the spring.
Water for the win . Staying hydrated is a key part of getting in shape. Not only will drinking water help your body stay replenished as you take on additional physical activity, but it will also help you detox and lose weight. According to Harvard Medical School , “Drinking fluids is crucial to staying healthy and maintaining the function of every system in your body, including your heart, brain, and muscles.”
Get plenty of ZZZZZ’s . It may seem strange, but getting a solid night’s sleep actually helps your body to be more efficient as you pursue your fitness goals. Dr. W. Christopher Winter, the president of Charlottesville Neurology and Sleep Medicine explains that during sleep, our bodies actually create a hormone that helps build lean muscle, as well as giving our bodies time to recover and repair after a workout. (Source: Everydayhealth.com )
APP-ly yourself . There are many amazing and convenient miracles that are accessible on our smartphones, and one of them is the plethora of free fitness and weight loss apps. These easy-to-use platforms allow you to track your calorie intake, exercise goals, sleep, and even menstrual cycles! A few AbbaCare staff favorites include “Lose It!,” “C25K” (a Couch-to-5K program), and “MyFitnessPal.” As always, be sure to run any diet or exercise program by your doctor before starting.
Find a fitness buddy . They say misery loves company, but a better way to look at it is that two are stronger than one! Find someone with similar fitness goals (and a similar schedule!!) and then get out there and be active together! Whether it’s walking, running, biking, going to the gym, or recreational sports, getting fit with a friend is a great way to stay motivated and to have the accountability of another person.

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving Winchester Virginia, Martinsburg West Virginia, and the Northern Shenandoah Valley. If you or someone you know is facing an unplanned pregnancy, is considering abortion or other pregnancy options, or is in need of post-abortive care or counseling, please let us know by calling 540.665.9660 (Winchester) or 304.726.6582 (Martinsburg) or sending us a message .

What is Surgical Abortion?

Sun, 11 Apr 2021 20:52:20 GMT

When a woman discovers she is pregnant, and the pregnancy was unplanned, she has the legal right to research all her options. If considering an abortion, she may quickly find a lot of terminology that is hard to understand, including phrases like “surgical abortion,” “medical abortion,” and “chemical abortion.” What does it all mean? What is Surgical Abortion?

First of all, the general term “abortion” is the termination of a pregnancy, which may be spontaneous (miscarriage) or induced. In the United States, legal abortions are performed at certain stages of pregnancy, called trimesters, according to each individual state’s laws. The gestational age (how far along the woman is in the pregnancy), viability (fetal heartbeat) and the location of the pregnancy (in the uterus or outside the uterus) need to be confirmed before an abortion can be performed. This can be done by a pelvic exam and ultrasound.

A medical or chemical abortion refers to the “abortion pill” which can only be used very early in pregnancy. It is important to note that for many women, by the time they find out they are pregnant, it is already too late for this type of abortion, so it is important to get an ultrasound to determine how far along the pregnancy is before pursuing the abortion pill. Check out this post for more information on medical abortions .

Surgical abortion is the removal of a pregnancy from the uterus using medical instruments. Common types of surgical abortion include suction abortion (vacuum aspiration), dilation & curettage (D&C), and dilation & evacuation (D&E). Suction abortions and D&Cs can be performed up to 13 weeks 6 days of pregnancy while D&E’s may be performed between 13 and 21 weeks of pregnancy.

First trimester abortions (suction abortion and D&C) are typically a same-day process performed in an office or clinic, and involve a procedure to widen the cervix and remove the contents of the uterus using suction and/or scraping of the uterine walls. Possible complications include:

Uterus may not be completely emptied (incomplete abortion) and may require repeat suction abortion.
Uterine infection, heavy bleeding, cramping.
Instruments may damage reproductive organs.

Second trimester abortions (D&E) are a two-day process performed in a clinic or hospital, with the first day focused on softening and opening the cervix and the second day removing the fetus through suction, or if the fetus is too large, forceps are used to remove the fetus by smaller pieces. Possible complications include:

Uterine infection, heavy bleeding, cramping.
Instruments may damage reproductive organs

Later stage abortions have an increased risk of medical complications. In addition to the medical complications, many women experience adverse emotional and mental health symptoms after experiencing an abortion. Persons with preexisting mental health conditions are at an increased risk for these types of complications. Read more about post-abortion stress and symptoms here.

When facing an unwanted pregnancy, the most important thing a woman can have is knowledge, because knowledge is empowering . First, it is important that she has a diagnostic ultrasound to determine the viability, location, and gestational age of the pregnancy so that she knows what abortion procedures are even under consideration for her. Secondly, there is more information available about each of type of procedure, and a woman owes it to herself to have all her questions answered, and to see how each procedure and the associated risks apply to her unique medical and mental health situation.

At AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center, we offer free and confidential pregnancy confirmation, diagnostic ultrasound, and pregnancy options education in a caring, non-judgmental environment. All of our services are free, so we never profit from any choice you make. Email us here , or call 540.665.9660 in Winchester, VA or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg, WV to schedule your appointment today. Your health and empowerment are worth it!

(Not in our area? Click here to find a pregnancy resource center near you .)

Source consulted: Virginia Department of Health

Porn Is The New Drug

Sun, 07 Mar 2021 20:47:11 GMT

Porn is the new drug. Did you know that pornography is now being referred to as the “new drug?” Multiple studies have shown that dopamine, the same hormone released when using narcotic drugs, is also released while viewing porn.

Dopamine is such a powerful hormone, it is also known as the “reward chemical.” Dopamine is released when we take a risk, learn something new, or do something exciting. Dopamine makes us feel successful and encourages us to repeat the activity to “feel good” again which can lead to becoming addicted.

A few surprising statistics:

Most pornography users have their first exposure to pornography by 11 years old.
33% of porn users are female.
64 % of young people ages 13-24 actively seek out pornography weekly or more often.
30 % of the material streamed on the internet is pornography
Porn sites receive more regular traffic than Netflix, Amazon, and Twitter combined.
There are an average of 116,000 daily searches for child pornography.

We need to open our eyes to the dangers of such easy access and widespread use of pornography.

What can happen?

Pornography usage easily becomes addictive, and it takes more and more shocking images to achieve the same “high.”
Pornography impacts the way women see themselves, leading to issues such as body dysmorphia (an irrational obsession with perceived flaws in one’s appearance), anxiety, and depression.
Likewise, pornography impacts the way men see women. Men begin viewing women only as sexual objects, existing to satisfy the desires of men, rather than as human beings in need of love, support, and encouragement.
Viewing pornography leads to less satisfaction and contentment with “real-life” relationships and intimacy. Pornography inevitably leads to unhealthy marital relationships and often, divorce.
Some studies show that pornography can decrease brain function.
Studies also show that viewing pornography can lead to sexual impairment, particularly in men.

There is an even darker element to the pornography industry that isn’t often discussed or understood by the mainstream culture. Porn is often created at the expense of women, men, boys, and girls being exploited by sex traffickers. Many porn users believe that their habit “isn’t hurting anyone.” However, the shocking reality is that pornography creates a “market” for sex trafficking, so the use of pornography is actually causing people (many of them minors) to be victimized in order to create the “product.”

In today’s digital culture, pornography goes much deeper than a hidden magazine. Pornography is a dangerous addiction that hurts people, relationships, and marriages. Is it worth the risk?

To learn more about the adverse effects of pornography on the brain, heart, body, and the world, visit Fight the New Drug .

Source: fightthenewdrug.org

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center located in Winchester, VA and Martinsburg, WV. To learn more, visit abbacare.org .

Pregnancy and COVID Vaccination

Sun, 07 Feb 2021 20:44:01 GMT

Pregnancy and COVID Vaccination. For many women, pregnancy can be a time of anxiety, confusion, and often doubt as to what is the best course of action for optimal health for both the woman herself and her unborn child. Add to that, the stress of being in the midst of a global pandemic and wondering whether it is safe to receive the COVID-19 vaccination, and those feelings may be greatly intensified.

Research on the effect of COVID-19 vaccination during pregnancy is still ongoing, and other health factors apart from pregnancy may influence whether a person should receive a COVID-19 vaccine. Individuals should consult with a healthcare provider for vaccination advisement based on their own personal medical history.

If you are pregnant and not sure what to do about the COVID vaccine, or even unsure whether you plan to carry the pregnancy to term, the first step is to have the pregnancy medically confirmed, and to determine the gestational age, viability, and location (intrauterine vs. ectopic) of the pregnancy.

We can offer you these services free of charge at AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center. Call 540.665.9660 in Winchester, VA or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg, WV to schedule your free, confidential pregnancy appointment, or visit abbacare.org to learn more about your pregnancy options.

(Not in our area? Click here to find a pregnancy resource center near you .)

How to Confirm Pregnancy for Free

Sun, 10 Jan 2021 20:35:42 GMT

How to Confirm Pregnancy for Free. Eliana was starting to panic . She’d been “late” a few times before, but then her period would come – much to her great relief – right about the time she started to worry. But not this time. This time she was…what, two weeks late? Or more like three? Maybe she miscounted. Maybe she got confused about when her last one was. Still she knew something wasn’t right and she should probably take a pregnancy test. But how could she even purchase one? This town isn’t that big – someone might see her in line at the store. Plus she’s watching every dime she spends…how much does a reliable pregnancy test even cost?

Rebecca felt much the same way, except this wasn’t her first “rodeo.” She has two children at home and is now dreading the thought of being pregnant again. She took a home pregnancy test, and it showed a faint positive, but she knows from past experience she needs to get it medically confirmed. Also because her cycles have been so irregular since her last baby, she has no idea how far along she might be, and what her options are. A visit to her OB/GYN will cost a big chunk of her paycheck.

Fortunately, Eliana and Rebecca, and hundreds of thousands of other women like them, find a pregnancy resource center like AbbaCare . They are able to schedule a private, non-judgmental appointment for a medically-verified free pregnancy confirmation and then an ultrasound to determine how far along they are, as well as the viability and location (inside or outside the uterus) of the pregnancy. They can also hear what all their options are from a registered nurse who has no financial gain from their decision. And the best part is it’s all completely FREE of charge.

If you find yourself in a situation where you need to confirm (or rule out) a positive pregnancy test, we are here to help. No pressure, no judgment, no cost. Call 540.665.9660 in Winchester, VA or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg, WV.

The first step is knowing. Call today.

(Not in our area? Click here to find a pregnancy resource center near you .)

Alone on New Year’s Eve? No Problem.

Sun, 20 Dec 2020 20:32:57 GMT

Alone on New Year’s Eve? No Problem. New Year’s Eve is just around the corner, and for many, that means a time to be surrounded by people, and maybe even get a kiss at midnight! On the other hand, for people who are single, the loneliness can set in if we aren’t careful to manage our expectations for the holiday. But with a little planning, New Year’s Eve can be a time to become your better self. So here are 5 ways to start the New Year off right :

Unplug . Often when we’re alone, the tendency is to escape into the online world of social media, endless internet surfing, or worse – pornography. The desire to connect to others in this way only leads to more feelings of isolation. Though it may seem counterintuitive, try “unplugging” from the internet and choose other ways to spend the New Year’s holiday, like baking, reading, or exercise.
Treat Yourself . In our increasingly interactive culture, we often lose the art of enjoying our own company. It may sound odd, but New Year’s Eve is a great day to focus on the things that make you happy. One idea is to make it a Spa Day. Most spas are open during the day on Dec 31, so make an appointment for pampering! If the spa is not your vibe, go out for your favorite meal, see a movie in a theater, or people-watch at your favorite restaurant or shopping area. Do not worry about the other people around you – do the things you enjoy! (Just remember to stay safe – if you go out on your own, be careful not to put yourself in dangerous situations, and make sure someone knows where you are and when you’re expected back home.)
It’s OK to Cry Sometimes…and Pray . Emotions can run high during the holidays, so it is very important to connect with those emotions, and it’s OK to let them “out” in healthy ways. Keeping your feelings of sadness bottled up can lead to bigger mental health issues. Cry it all out, and start the New Year fresh and clean emotionally. If you are a person of faith, or even a skeptic but curious about God, it can be very healing to turn those powerful emotions into prayer. In the Bible, there’s a verse that says, “Cast your cares on Him, because He cares for you.” (1 Peter 5:7) For more tips on beating the holiday blues in general, read this post.
Reach Out To Someone . During New Year’s celebrations, we tend to feel we’re the only one who doesn’t “have someone,” but it just isn’t true. Realizing that there are others in the same boat can be a turning point in how we evaluate our situation. In our focus on our own feelings, we forget that there are others we can support and spend time with. So reach out to somebody that maybe you haven’t talked to in a while. It will not only bless someone else, but it will boost your spirits as well.
DON’T “Hook Up” for the Sake of Not Being Alone . The most important thing is to avoid the temptation to hook up with someone just to overcome the temporary feeling of loneliness. Many people feel a certain desperation around the holidays and end up saying “yes” to a hook up, only to quickly regret it when the encounter does not bring the contentment that was expected.

The real key is to find happiness with yourself and find love within you, but if we never learn to accept our singleness and accept ourselves when we are at our most vulnerable, then how are we to give happiness and love to someone else in a healthy relationship?

We end up with regrets not just because we said “yes” to the first person that we found, but because we never found a way to be content with ourselves. Start the New Year happy in your own company to make sure that others can enjoy your company as well.

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving Winchester Virginia, Martinsburg West Virginia, and the Northern Shenandoah Valley. If you or someone you know is facing an unplanned pregnancy, is considering abortion or other pregnancy options, or is in need of post-abortive care or counseling, please let us know by calling 540.665.9660 (Winchester) or 304.726.6582 (Martinsburg) or sending us a message.

6 Ways to Beat the Holiday Blues

Sun, 06 Dec 2020 20:29:49 GMT

“Tis the season to be jolly…..” or is it? While the holidays are traditionally thought of as a time for joy and contentment, for many people it’s a time when depression and anxiety can be at their highest. According to the National Institutes of Health , as many as 14% of Americans experience depressive episodes during the winter months. Here are a 6 ways to help beat the holiday blues .

Avoid overscheduling – the holidays can be a very busy time, and when we become overscheduled, the result is fatigue which contributes to depression. Learn to say “no” to taking on too much during the holidays, and make sure to get adequate sleep and “down-time.”
Exercise regularly – when the weather gets cold and the days are shorter, it’s easy to become less active. Try to get to the gym, go for a walk or run (bundle up if it’s cold!), or find other ways to get regular cardiovascular exercise. Even 10-15 minutes a day will boost endorphins and promote an overall sense of well-being.
Take it easy with alcohol – holiday parties and family gatherings tend to include an increased alcohol intake for many people, but keep in mind that alcohol is a depressant. Healthline.com recommends limiting alcohol to 1-2 drinks at a holiday gathering.
Connect with others – we need fellowship with others throughout the year, and during the holidays, that need is magnified. Whether it’s family, friends, a church group, or other support system, take the initiative to reach out to others and spend time together. Particularly if you’ve suffered a loss during the year, such as the death of a loved one or a break-up, it’s important to remember you are not alone.
Volunteer or give back to the community – A wonderful way to shake the blues is to focus on the needs of others. Many charities have events and/or ways to volunteer during the holidays and by taking part, we become a part of something bigger than ourselves. And sometimes we make new friends in the process!
Ask for help – If you are experiencing significant symptoms of depression such as prolonged inability to complete everyday tasks, excessive feelings of guilt or fear, or thoughts of self-harm and/or suicide, you are likely suffering more than just “holiday blues.” Don’t go through this alone. Reach out to a trusted friend to help you find support, or call 800-273-8255 to talk to someone right away.

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving Winchester Virginia, Martinsburg West Virginia, and the Northern Shenandoah Valley. If you or someone you know is facing an unplanned pregnancy, is considering abortion or other pregnancy options, or is in need of post-abortive care or counseling, please let us know by calling 540.665.9660 (Winchester) or 304.726.6582 (Martinsburg) or sending us a message.

We are Thankful for Our Clients

Sun, 22 Nov 2020 23:38:30 GMT

We are thankful for our clients. November is a month where we think about the things we are thankful for. One of things we are most grateful for here at AbbaCare is our clients – because they are the reason we do what we do each day. When women (and their partners) come to us, often they are scared, confused, and unsure of what to do after finding out they are pregnant. Our goal is to equip them with truth and empower them with hope.

These men and women who come through our doors and allow us the privilege to walk with them in their journey make the work we do here…well…not seem like work at all! When we have the chance to help a woman who is struggling with a pregnancy decision, listen to a current or past client who just needs a person to talk to, or even provide some assistance with baby supplies, it is our joy to be able to meet each of those needs.

Recently I was having lunch at a local restaurant. At the end of my meal, the waitress approached me and told me she had paid for my lunch. She said, “You work at AbbaCare, right? You helped me so much a few years ago. I am doing really well now and I just want to thank you for all you did for me.”

This was such an encouragement, knowing that helping someone meant so much to them. Each person’s situation is unique and here at AbbaCare, our clients are not another number – they mean the world to us. We are grateful for each and every one of these opportunities that we get to help anyone in need of our services.

As we enter this season of thankfulness, we hope that you know we are here for you if you need us, and we’d be grateful to come alongside you in any way we can. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Nikki Morelli, Executive Director

AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center

Winchester, VA & Martinsburg, WV

Telehealth and Abortion: What Women Need to Know

Sun, 25 Oct 2020 23:34:46 GMT

Telehealth and Abortion. The coronavirus pandemic has introduced us to new ways of treating medical concerns as they arise. COVID-19 has opened new doors to assessment and treatment of emerging health concerns. Telemedicine, sometimes called telehealth, is a new and emerging way that medical professionals can “see” patients and assess their situation.

One of the most recent trends that has been brought to the forefront is women seeking medical abortions, and specifically the abortion pill, through a telehealth consultation. As with most new technology, there is much confusion about pregnancy consultations and treatment via telehealth. Here are a few basic things to understand:

What is telehealth/telemedicine?

As a general definition, telehealth or telemedicine (sometimes spelled tele-health, tele-medicine) is talking to your doctor or nurse via video call instead of making an in-person visit. This practice is not risky in and of itself, and is actually a convenient and safe starting point for a medical issue, especially in light of COVID-19. At AbbaCare, we offer a telehealth option as a first step in pregnancy options consultation. However, there are limitations as to what advice and treatment medical professionals can safely give on a telehealth call, and abortion options are one of those limited areas.

What is telehealth abortion?

A telehealth abortion, or telehealth abortion consultation, refers to having a video-based conference call with a medical professional in relation to the termination of a pregnancy. Because the practice of discussing abortion options via telemedicine is so new, there is a great deal of conflicting information on the internet regarding what a physician or other health professional can or can’t provide in terms of abortion information and procedures via telehealth. Because of the untested nature of this practice, it is recommended that women seeking abortion options be seen in person by a licensed medical professional prior to undergoing any abortion procedures.

Why is it so important to be seen by a medical professional in person before an abortion is performed? Can’t a doctor just send the abortion pill in the mail or write a prescription?

Abortion of any kind, including the abortion pill, is a medical procedure. It is important for the medical professional to be able to fully evaluate a woman’s current health (including the possible presence of STI/STD’s – read more here.) through an in-person visit.

Further, an ultrasound needs to be performed to definitively determine the gestational age of the pregnancy, because some abortion procedures are based on how far a woman is into her pregnancy. And because the date of the last menstrual period is very often an inaccurate assessment of gestational age, proceeding with an abortion without an ultrasound can be very dangerous for the woman.

An example of this is a medical abortion (also known the abortion pill or Plan C abortion) which is only recommended for pregnancies up to 10 weeks. Based on a woman’s last period, she may believe she is only 6-8 weeks along in her pregnancy, but an ultrasound shows that she is actually 13 weeks along. Had she continued with a medical abortion via the abortion pill, the health ramifications could have been significant.

An ultrasound is also imperative because a woman should be assessed for an ectopic pregnancy. This is a life threatening situation in which the pregnancy is actually outside of the uterus and requires emergency treatment. Abortion procedures conducted when the pregnancy is ectopic can have devastating consequences, but an ultrasound can easily rule out an ectopic pregnancy, empowering the woman to know more clearly what her options are.

Lastly, it is important to be seen in person by a doctor so that a thorough medical history can be obtained. It is difficult for doctors (and patients) to fully communicate all those details over a video call and therefore the medical professional can easily miss an important risk factor. For instance, the abortion pill should not be used on patients with some blood disorders, on certain medications, or with allergies to medications. The best way to discuss all the risk factors is in a private, confidential in person visit.

At AbbaCare, we offer a full, in-person consultation to discuss all your options as well as assessing risk factors. We offer STI/STD testing and treatment for pregnancy clients and their partners, and a diagnostic ultrasound to definitively determine gestational age and to rule out ectopic pregnancy. All of our services are free, confidential, and offered in a safe, welcoming, non-judgmental environment . Please call today to schedule your first consultation in Winchester ( 540.665.9660 ) or Martinsburg ( 304.726.6582 ).

Still not sure about coming in person? We do offer telehealth consultations as a first step. Click here to ask about that option .

(Not in our area? Click here to find a pregnancy resource center near you .)

Outside Sources Consulted:

https://www.healthline.com/health/abortion-pill#risks-and-complications

https://www.mayoclinic.org/tests-procedures/medical-abortion/about/pac-20394687

5 Tips for Better Sleep

Sun, 11 Oct 2020 23:30:10 GMT

We’ve probably all experienced it at one time or another – tossing, turning, staring at the ceiling…except for when we peek back at our phone to see what time it is – wishing that we could just SLEEP. Here’s 5 tips for better sleep .

According to Medical News Today , adequate sleep is essential to optimal health and overall well-being. So short of “counting sheep,” how can we get better sleep?

Watch diet and eating schedule . The Mayo Clinic recommends not going to to bed hungry, OR overly full. It’s best to avoid heavy meals within 2 hours of bedtime. It’s also best to avoid sugar, caffeine, and alcohol within a few hours of sleep. (Alcohol can make us feel sleepy initially, but it disrupts sleep patterns on the whole.)
Create a cool, restful environment . “Many sleep experts agree that the ideal room temperature for sleep is between 60 and 67 degrees,” reads an article from Kaiser Permanente . “Your body temperature naturally lowers as you fall asleep, and a cooler room can help make that happen faster.”
Soak in some sunshine during the day . Our bodies’ natural circadian rhythms are designed to help us sleep when it is dark, and be awake when it is light, so we can help encourage this process by getting plenty of sun during the day. If working or going to school where there is not a lot of natural light, it’s best to try to find times during the day to get outside for a walk or just to sit and soak in some of that great natural light. Source: Healthline.com .
Get into a routine and stick with it . The Sleep Foundation says it’s best to establish a solid bedtime and wake-up time, but it may be necessary to adjust that gradually if the desired sleep schedule is dramatically different from current sleep habits. If we try to switch our sleep schedules too quickly, the result is usually napping during the day which is detrimental to good nighttime sleep.
Get regular exercise, preferably early in the day . Many sources, including the American Cancer Society, mention the role of physical exercise in good sleep. Engaging in regular physical exercise, as approved by one’s doctor, generally leads to overall healthier living as well as helping us be a “good kind of tired” when we head to dreamland.

AbbaCare is a pregnancy resource center serving Winchester Virginia, Martinsburg West Virginia, and the Northern Shenandoah Valley. If you or someone you know is facing an unplanned pregnancy, is considering abortion or other pregnancy options, or is in need of post-abortive care or counseling, please let us know by calling 540.665.9660 (Winchester) or 304.726.6582 (Martinsburg) or sending us a message .

Part 2: The Most Common STIs/STDs – Genital Herpes, Syphilis, HPV

Sun, 27 Sep 2020 23:24:13 GMT

In Part 1 of this blogpost , we discussed the first set of the most common STIs/STDs; Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and HIV. Similar to these three, Genital Herpes, Syphilis, and HPV are also increasingly common in the U.S., especially among young people.

STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases) and STI’s (sexually transmitted infections) are diseases/infections that are passed from one person to another through sexual contact (vaginal, anal, or oral sex). The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) estimates that people age 15 to 24 account for 50% of the 20 million new STI’s that occur in the United States annually, despite the fact that this age group makes up just 27% of the sexually active population. Studies also show that infertility issues in 24,000 women each year are attributed to undiagnosed STI’s.

Many people don’t know that they are infected because STI’s often have no symptoms. When STI’s go untreated, they advance to become an STD. Below are some of the most common STI’s/STD’s:

Genital Herpes

More than 1 out of every 6 people aged 14 to 49 years have genital herpes, making it one of the most common STD in the United States. Besides having vaginal, anal, or oral sex with someone already who has the disease, Genital Herpes can also be contracted through contact with the virus through:

herpes sore
saliva (if your partner has an oral herpes infection) or genital secretions (if your partner has a genital herpes infection)
skin in the oral area (if your partner has an oral herpes infection) or skin in the genital area (if your partner has a genital herpes infection)

Unlike STDs such as Chlamydia and Gonorrhea, Genital Herpes is incurable.

Syphilis

This is an STI that can cause serious health problems including death if not treated. The signs, symptoms, and health consequences to the body advance from one stage to another when the infection goes untreated. They include:

Primary stage: Those infected may notice a single or multiple round, firm sores which represent where the syphilis bacteria entered the body. The sores usually last 3 to 6 weeks, and because they are painless, they may go unnoticed and therefore remain untreated.

Secondary stage: Those infected may develop skin rashes and/or mucous membrane lesions (sores in the mouth, vagina, or anus). Symptoms may also include fever, swollen lymph glands, sore throat, patchy hair loss, headaches, weight loss, muscle aches, and fatigue.

Latent stage: In this stage, there are no visible signs or symptoms. The syphilis bacteria will stay in the body for years if it goes untreated.

Tertiary stage: At this stage, the infection advances into a disease that damages internal organs and can result in death. Complications include neurosyphilis which affects the brain and the nervous system, and ocular syphilis which affects the eyes, sometimes causing blindness.

HPV

HPV (Human papillomavirus) is the most common STI in the United States, affecting more than 70 million Americans, most in their late teens and early 20’s. Undeveloped HPV has no symptoms and there are often no health problems associated with it. However, if the infection does not go away, it advances to cause genital warts and certain kinds of cancer. Many women find out they have HPV when they get an abnormal Pap test result (during cervical cancer screening).

If you and/or your partner have engaged in risky sexual behaviors that may increase your risk for contracting an STI/STD, it’s highly recommended that you get tested for your health and safety, and to consider a change in your sexual behaviors. The only 100% foolproof way to prevent STI’s/STD’s is through abstinence or sex in a committed, permanently monogamous relationship.

AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center provides free STI/STD testing and treatment for our pregnancy clients and their partners. Call 540.665.9660 for more information.

Part 1: The Most Common STIs/STDs – Chlamydia, Gonorrhea, and HIV

Sun, 13 Sep 2020 23:21:43 GMT

The Most Common STIs/STDs. STD’s (sexually transmitted diseases) and STI’s (sexually transmitted infections) are diseases/infections that are passed from one person to another through sexual contact (vaginal, anal, or oral sex). The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) estimates that people age 15 to 24 account for 50% of the 20 million new STI’s that occur in the United States annually, despite the fact that this age group makes up just 27% of the sexually active population. Studies also show that infertility issues in 24,000 women each year are attributed to undiagnosed STI’s.

Many people don’t know that they are infected because STI’s often have no symptoms. When STI’s go untreated, they advance to become an STD. Below are some of the most common STI’s/STD’s:

Chlamydia

This STI/STD is known for causing serious damage to a woman’s reproductive system, increasing the risk of potentially fatal ectopic pregnancy (pregnancy that occurs outside the womb/uterus) and increased difficulty in getting pregnant. Women who exhibit symptoms may notice:

An abnormal vaginal discharge
A burning sensation when urinating

Infected men may notice:

A discharge from their penis
A burning sensation when urinating
Pain and swelling in one or both testicles

Additionally, both men and women can get chlamydia in their rectum through receptive anal sex or it can be spread from another infected site (such as the vagina). While these infections often cause no symptoms, victims can experience:

Rectal pain
Discharge
Bleeding

Gonorrhea

This is an STI/STD that causes infection in the genitals, rectum, and/or throat. Although some men with gonorrhea may have no symptoms at all, those who do may experience:

A burning sensation when urinating
A white, yellow, or green discharge from the penis
Painful or swollen testicles

Unlike men, most women with gonorrhea don’t exhibit any symptoms. When they do, the symptoms tend to be mild and can be mistaken for a bladder or vaginal infection. Symptoms in women can include:

Painful or burning sensation when urinating
Increased vaginal discharge
Vaginal bleeding between periods

HIV

People with STD’s have an increased risk of getting HIV compared to those who are STD-free. This is because having a sore or break in the skin from another STD may easily allow HIV to enter your body. Likewise, the same behaviors and circumstances that increase your risk for getting an STD can also multiply your chances of getting HIV, such as:

Having anal, vaginal, or oral sex without a condom
Having multiple sex partners
Having anonymous sex partners
Having sex while under the influence of drugs or alcohol, which lowers inhibitions and results in greater sexual risk-taking

The HIV virus targets and alters the immune system hence the name: Human Immunodeficiency Virus. As a result, this virus increases the risk and impact of other infections and diseases. HIV infection can progress to an advanced disease called AIDS (Acquired Immune Deficiency Syndrome).

AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center provides free STI/STD testing and treatment for our pregnancy clients and their partners. Call 540.665.9660 for more information.

Morning After Pill: What Is It and What are the Side Effects?

Sun, 30 Aug 2020 23:16:49 GMT

The “morning after pill” goes by a few different names, such as the “Plan B bill” or “ella.” It is important to understand what the morning after pill is, and what it isn’t.

If a woman is already pregnant, the morning after pill will not terminate the current pregnancy. Because of this, the morning after pill is not considered an “abortion pill.” Rather, it is considered to be a form of emergency contraception.

Emergency contraception is only recommended as a back-up plan, and not as a primary plan for preventing pregnancy. Some examples of when emergency contraception might come into play are:

If a woman is using an oral contraceptive (birth control pills) and missed a day or two of her pills.
If a couple was using a condom and it fell off or broke during intercourse.

How do these emergency contraceptives work?

What happens in the body when one of these medications is taken? The body temporarily delays the release of an egg from the ovary. If the woman has already ovulated before the sexual encounter and is in her ovulation cycle, the morning after pill will not be effective, because the egg has already been released, and therefore can still be fertilized. However, if she has not ovulated, she has a window of opportunity to be proactive in the prevention of a pregnancy.

What are the side effects with emergency contraception?

Difficult Period (lighter, heavier, earlier or later than normal)
Headache
Breast tenderness
Abdominal pain
Nausea
Vomiting
Difficult periods
Fatigue
Dizziness

If these side effect become persistent or worsen, it is recommended that the woman follow-up with her physician or go to the ER.

Other things to be aware of with emergency contraceptives

Different brands of morning after pills have different windows of effectiveness. Be sure to research each brand carefully, or consult a physician or pregnancy resource center such as AbbaCare .
If a woman is overweight (has a higher BMI – body mass index), the morning after pill may be less effective. (Source: Mayo Clinic )
If a woman vomits within 2 hours of taking the morning after pill, she should consult her physician for further recommendations.

Using the morning after pill can delay a woman’s period for up to a week after it is due. It is recommended that if a woman’s period does not start for 3-4 weeks, she should take a pregnancy test.

Like all birth control methods, the morning after pill is not 100% effective in preventing pregnancy. If you feel you may be at risk for an unintended pregnancy, or may already be pregnant, call AbbaCare today for a free, confidential pregnancy options consultation. We welcome you in a caring, non-judgmental environment and we are here to answer all of your questions. Click here to email , or call 540.665.9660 in Winchester, VA or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg, WV.

Best Early Pregnancy Test Brands

Sun, 16 Aug 2020 23:08:55 GMT

Best Early Pregnancy Test Brands. A missed period could be a sign that a woman is potentially pregnant. But what if a woman wants to know if she is pregnant before she has missed a period? Can a pregnancy test give a positive result before a woman is late in her menstrual cycle? In some cases, yes.

Advances in pregnancy test technology have yielded positive pregnancy test results several days prior to the first missed period.

Here are a few of the top rated early pregnancy test brands and products, based on customer reviews:

First Response Early Result Pregnancy Test

Results up to 6 days before your missed period
Over 99% accurate from the day of your expected period
Detects all forms of the pregnancy hormone
Results are read in 3 minutes

Clearblue Early Detection Pregnancy Test

Results 6 days sooner than your missed period (5 days before you expect your period)
Over 99% accurate from the day you expect your period

Clearblue Digital & Rapid Pregnancy Tests

Results up to 5 days before missed period
Accurate with Extra Confirmation
Digital test provides clear results in words- ‘Pregnant’ or ‘Not Pregnant’
Rapid Detection test is easily used with clear positive (+) or negative (-) results

PREGMATE Pregnancy Test Strips

Results up to 5 days before your missed period
Accurate and highly reliable pregnancy test strips
Earliest detection, greatest sensitivity level: 25 mIU/mL
Results are over 99.8% accurate

AbbaCare provides free medical grade pregnancy testing to aid in early pregnancy confirmation that is based on the presence of hCG, a hormone produced during pregnancy. We can verify your pregnancy results and provide you accurate, unbiased medical information about all your pregnancy options. For your free, confidential appointment, please call us at 540.665.9660 in Winchester, VA or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg, WV.

Article Sources:

C. Grise. (2020), The 8 best pregnancy tests of 2020: Get results in a fast and effective matter for your needs. Very Well Family. (verywellfamily.com)

(2020). Pregnancy tests. American Pregnancy Association. ( americanpregnancy.org )

How Can I Support My Pregnant Girlfriend?

Sun, 02 Aug 2020 23:02:27 GMT

How Can I Support My Pregnant Girlfriend? Your girlfriend is pregnant and you have a million things going through your head. You might feel excited, terrified, or maybe both! Either way, you know you want to be supportive. But how? We’re so glad you asked!

First of all, if the pregnancy is unplanned, you and your girlfriend may not be sure what you want to do. Click here for a great article written just for guys about the three main pregnancy options: parenting, adoption, and abortion.

If you and your girlfriend are planning to continue the pregnancy, your support of mom-to-be is crucial to her well-being moving forward. A woman who feels loved and cared for by her partner will experience a much healthier pregnancy, and the baby will be healthier overall.

Here are a few ways you can offer your support:

Encourage and reassure her . Pregnancy can be physically taxing. In addition, her hormones are fluctuating and her moods may switch suddenly. Take time to educate yourself about all she is facing during her pregnancy ( https://www.whattoexpect.com/pregnancy/expecting-father/ is an excellent website) and be understanding. Also, be honest about your feelings, fears, or concerns. Stay positive. Assure her that the two of you can face anything and everything together.

Show an interest in the baby’s development . Be aware of the gestational milestones during each trimester of pregnancy. The baby’s heart is beating only 22 days after conception, which is often before the woman even knows she is pregnant. By 18 weeks, a baby can hear sounds, and that sensitivity to sound increases each week. By 26 weeks, the baby will respond to sounds it hears! If you speak to the baby in the womb regularly, he/she will recognize your voice at birth. How cool is that?!

Ask her what she needs from you, and then be willing to do those things . Perhaps she needs a nice foot rub or for you to do a bit more around the house. She might need you to go on ice cream runs! Your acts of service will mean so much to her. (By the way, those kind gestures shouldn’t end when the pregnancy does! ?)

Show affection . Hold hands and give hugs. Some women may not be as interested in sex during pregnancy, so be understanding and initiate non-sexual touch.

Try to eat healthy foods , which can encourage her to eat well also, which is vital to her health and the baby’s.

Encourage her to take breaks and naps . Her body needs a lot more rest now. Be willing to give her extra time to replenish herself physically.

Take walks or do other non-strenuous activities together. This encourages her to get good exercise and is also, for her, quality time spent with you.

Take advantage of community resources for expectant couples. Many organizations offer resources and services for families with financial need or other factors. For example, AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center offers free pregnancy testing, diagnostic ultrasounds, and pregnancy options education, as well as childbirth and parenting classes. Call 540.665.9660 in Winchester, VA or 304.726.6582 in Martinsburg, WV, or visit abbacare.org for more information.

The time and attention that you invest into your girlfriend during her pregnancy is well worth it! You will both benefit as you strengthen and deepen your relationship, and that is a very good thing for the baby!

Post Abortion Stress and Symptoms

Sun, 19 Jul 2020 22:49:54 GMT

Post Abortion Stress and Symptoms. Abortion affects everyone differently, but you’re not alone in your thoughts and feelings. It is not uncommon for post-abortive women to experience:

Guilt or regret
Feelings of low self-worth
Crying spells
Flashbacks or nightmares
Depression or hopelessness
Feelings of unforgiveness

These post-abortion symptoms are sometimes known as post abortion syndrome. If you are experiencing post abortion grief or similar emotions after an abortion, you don’t have to process it all by yourself. We’ve been where you are, and we can walk with you to freedom.

PACE (Past Abortion Care and Encouragement), a faith-based recovery group for those seeking support related to past abortion is offered free of charge in a safe, confidential, judgment-free environment. Call 540.722.4844 or email chriswithpace@gmail.com for more information.

PACE is a ministry of AbbaCare Pregnancy Resource Center . AbbaCare is a medical facility serving Winchester Virginia, Martinsburg West Virginia, and the Northern Shenandoah Valley. If you or someone you know is facing an unplanned pregnancy, is considering abortion or other pregnancy options, or is in need of post-abortive care or counseling, please let us know by sending us a message .